penkitten
Master Don Juan
congratulations! may you wake each day with a full heart and a happy home!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think they're a distraction. Instead of reading every single one of my posts why don't you put me on ignore? This way you can sashay yourself to Hulk green bliss.Boilermaker said:he spends a lifetime bashing posters who have lots of "green dots" (although it's not the posters, but the readers who are giving them those green dots)
I made that reference one time to illustrate how idiotic and superficial the rep-laden dependency you new guys have.and then every once in a while he comes back and feels the need to remind us that he was the most rep'ped poster in sosuave before he disabled reputation.
Great. That's your choice. I don't give a good-goddamn.I want to see them green dots. That's an easy indicator of who I should ignore and who I should take seriously. And there's nothing immoral or unethical about showing people that you are admired and respected.
Pizza is cheesy too. That's what makes it great.I mean seriously, why are we even coming back here and sharing our opinions? Don't give me that cheesy "helping my fellow brothers
prosper in their journeys" argument.
At what point does one get when it becomes analingus?We feel good about ourselves, we feel good about being appreciated and respected. And there's nothing wrong with that.
But it makes me sick to see how some of us are so viciously attacking this basic idea, while needing the attention more than anyone else.
Thanks to you and everyone else who chimed in without bullsh!t.5string said:Great news Karma!
May I please at least come to the reception and drink your Scotch?
That IS a comment.Rollo Tomassi said:Noted without comment.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
First marriages are labeled starter marriages for a reason.DJ Logic said:Hmm some people just don't learn from their mistakes apparently. I wish you luck and happiness Karma, but do not see this ending well considering your dependency on female validation to assess your self-worth. (Before you get defensive look at your posting history since your divorce, it's very telling)
Why risk ruining all that with marriage?I'm engaged because I have learned from my mistakes. The Mrs.-to-be is as close to a supportive, caring, gorgeous, successful mate as I could've hoped.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nothing worth gaining's without risk.f283000 said:Why risk ruining all that with marriage?
*grabs popcorn*KarmaSutra said:Nothing worth gaining's without risk.
Marriage to a wonderful companion isn't the end of the world. Being a lonely, spiteful dude who lives on them internets is.
Unfortunately there are far too many of the latter.
Woah, that was a jab at us, wasn't it; The people on the interwebz. Sounds like you're not getting the response you wanted, so you're deflecting it on us.KarmaSutra said:Nothing worth gaining's without risk.
Marriage to a wonderful companion isn't the end of the world. Being a lonely, spiteful dude who lives on them internets is.
Unfortunately there are far too many of the latter.
Not unless you believe yourself to be said lonely, spiteful douche.ThunderMaverick said:Woah, that was a jab at us, wasn't it
I don't give a flying fvck about a random typed response on a forum. I'm not dependent on the whim of anyone's opinion but my own and those I trust.The people on the interwebz. Sounds like you're not getting the response you wanted, so you're deflecting it on us.
I don't care if any of you congratulate me, hate me, or if you choke on c0ck on a regular basis.I understand if your own personal values have changed after years of experience, but you can't expect us to all just congratulate you on something like this, a choice that screws most men over for the rest of their lives.
So? Marriages fall apart because one or both have lost the drive to keep each other mentally and physically interested in each other.More than half of marriages nowadays end in divorce, most of them initiated by women. I know you found a great one and all, but you never answered my question.
Not a thing.What can you get out of a personal union through marriage that you can't get not married?
She's already happy.Sue Madre said:He hasn't actually married her yet. He probably just did it to keep the nagging b!tch happy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
IQQI, expect irony to be lost on you, and you never disappoint.iqqi said:That IS a comment.![]()
Jitterbug said:She must be super amazing to put up with you lol
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.