penkitten
Master Don Juan
congratulations! may you wake each day with a full heart and a happy home!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think they're a distraction. Instead of reading every single one of my posts why don't you put me on ignore? This way you can sashay yourself to Hulk green bliss.Boilermaker said:he spends a lifetime bashing posters who have lots of "green dots" (although it's not the posters, but the readers who are giving them those green dots)
I made that reference one time to illustrate how idiotic and superficial the rep-laden dependency you new guys have.and then every once in a while he comes back and feels the need to remind us that he was the most rep'ped poster in sosuave before he disabled reputation.
Great. That's your choice. I don't give a good-goddamn.I want to see them green dots. That's an easy indicator of who I should ignore and who I should take seriously. And there's nothing immoral or unethical about showing people that you are admired and respected.
Pizza is cheesy too. That's what makes it great.I mean seriously, why are we even coming back here and sharing our opinions? Don't give me that cheesy "helping my fellow brothers
prosper in their journeys" argument.
At what point does one get when it becomes analingus?We feel good about ourselves, we feel good about being appreciated and respected. And there's nothing wrong with that.
But it makes me sick to see how some of us are so viciously attacking this basic idea, while needing the attention more than anyone else.
Thanks to you and everyone else who chimed in without bullsh!t.5string said:Great news Karma!
May I please at least come to the reception and drink your Scotch?
That IS a comment.Rollo Tomassi said:Noted without comment.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
First marriages are labeled starter marriages for a reason.DJ Logic said:Hmm some people just don't learn from their mistakes apparently. I wish you luck and happiness Karma, but do not see this ending well considering your dependency on female validation to assess your self-worth. (Before you get defensive look at your posting history since your divorce, it's very telling)
Why risk ruining all that with marriage?I'm engaged because I have learned from my mistakes. The Mrs.-to-be is as close to a supportive, caring, gorgeous, successful mate as I could've hoped.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nothing worth gaining's without risk.f283000 said:Why risk ruining all that with marriage?
*grabs popcorn*KarmaSutra said:Nothing worth gaining's without risk.
Marriage to a wonderful companion isn't the end of the world. Being a lonely, spiteful dude who lives on them internets is.
Unfortunately there are far too many of the latter.
Woah, that was a jab at us, wasn't it; The people on the interwebz. Sounds like you're not getting the response you wanted, so you're deflecting it on us.KarmaSutra said:Nothing worth gaining's without risk.
Marriage to a wonderful companion isn't the end of the world. Being a lonely, spiteful dude who lives on them internets is.
Unfortunately there are far too many of the latter.
Not unless you believe yourself to be said lonely, spiteful douche.ThunderMaverick said:Woah, that was a jab at us, wasn't it
I don't give a flying fvck about a random typed response on a forum. I'm not dependent on the whim of anyone's opinion but my own and those I trust.The people on the interwebz. Sounds like you're not getting the response you wanted, so you're deflecting it on us.
I don't care if any of you congratulate me, hate me, or if you choke on c0ck on a regular basis.I understand if your own personal values have changed after years of experience, but you can't expect us to all just congratulate you on something like this, a choice that screws most men over for the rest of their lives.
So? Marriages fall apart because one or both have lost the drive to keep each other mentally and physically interested in each other.More than half of marriages nowadays end in divorce, most of them initiated by women. I know you found a great one and all, but you never answered my question.
Not a thing.What can you get out of a personal union through marriage that you can't get not married?
She's already happy.Sue Madre said:He hasn't actually married her yet. He probably just did it to keep the nagging b!tch happy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
IQQI, expect irony to be lost on you, and you never disappoint.iqqi said:That IS a comment.![]()
Jitterbug said:She must be super amazing to put up with you lol
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.