The fallacy in thinking "women have advantage in modern dating" is, it forgets the world has a 1-to-1 gender balance. Neither side has an advantage.

[quodlibet]

In order for women to gain an advantage, they must be a sudden influx of men to give women more choices.

For example, if you (a male) are placed in a closed social environment where women outnumber men 5-to-1, then yes, you'll suddenly gain an advantage.

But the world has maintained a 1-to-1 gender balance since Adam and Eve. It's a total mathematical fallacy to think women suddenly have this huge advantage in recent decades. Bro, this is an undeniable mathematical FACT.

This fact means, there's literally someone for everyone. The only question is, how low will you go to find someone? If you want a quality person, then you cannot blame women for doing the same.

What it boils down to is, everybody "can" get someone but won't settle for just anyone.

In recent years, the dating game has changed because of two things:

- Because women are more financially independent, they view marriage as more of a "want" than a "need". So they have less desire to settle.

- Online dating and excessive male simps gives women a false sense of choice so they think they needn't settle. Like I said, it's false because if it's 1-to-1 gender ratio, there is no increased choice. Those simps are simping on countless others, not just her.

If you go onto dating forums on Reddit, it's 80% women. Women are complaining as loudly as men when it comes to dating, maybe even more. There are also countless articles how dating parties only have women showing up.

This talk of "women have the advantage" is just your lame excuse why you suck with women. Instead, why not focus on bettering yourself? Many guys have really crappy social skills and attitute then complain "iT's unFaIr, wOmeN haVe tHe adVAnTaGe'.

 

[The Duke]

No, online dating is not 1:1 and it happens to be the most common method used to meet somone.

Google AI says:

• Tinder: Around 75% to 78% male

• Bumble: Around 67% to 73% male

• Hinge: Around 64% male

Another common place to find women is in bars but even in those types of locations there are more men than women. They are never 1:1.

And plenty of women view marriage as a need...date a girl that is broke and see how hard she pushes marriage.

Add in the fact that women rarely approach and that throws off your 1:1 theory as well.

 

[Clockwerk50]

You're treating a 1-to-1 population ratio as if it automatically creates a 1-to-1 dating market, and I think you're conflating both variables. A 1-to-1 ratio tells us there are roughly equal numbers of men and women, but it doesn't tell us how attention or interest is distributed. A woman can have dozens of men pursuing her while only a handful are genuinely viable options, while a man may struggle to find even a few women who are genuinely interested in him.

Just to reinforce my point, the data in the link below shows that 57% of male online daters said they weren't getting enough messages, compared with 24% of women. Meanwhile, 30% of women said they received too many messages, compared with only 6% of men.

So your argument doesn't establish that men and women have the same dating-market conditions.

10 facts about Americans and online dating | Pew Research Center

 

[pipeman84]

I find it strange that online dating statistics are used as proof that women have an advantage in the dating market because the same people admit the quality of those women is poor to very poor and that apps are basically free sex catalogues for Chads and a waste of time for the other guys.
So how is receiving online validation from simps (which is as worthless as a guy claiming to be rich with Monopoly money) or being used as cvm dumpsters by Chads an advantage?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Women think men have it easier, men think women have it easier.

Stop arguing over useless shyte and get in the game and get some action.

 

[HaleyBaron]

So how is receiving online validation from simps (which is as worthless as a guy claiming to be rich with Monopoly money) or being used as cvm dumpsters by Chads an advantage?

This is simple to understand when you understand female nature.

Women have the greatest amount of narcissists in the genders. Women want everything. They can be getting attention but not enough physical attention. Women can be getting a lot of physical attention (prostitutes) but not enough emotional or non sexual attention. They want it all.

 

[Hal9000]

One hundred, or even fifty, years ago when men and women were expected to be married and procreating by their mid twenties the 1:1 ratio argument held a lot more water. Now nobody gets married and nobody is having kids so that makes that ratio irrelevant since nobody is expected to couple or breed at any point in their lives. Western culture has made it so convenient and accepted to live alone that it will eventually lead to its demise as birth rates plummet and people who despise the west are imported to take our place.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Young, beautiful women have an advantage, by virtue of being young and beautiful. Spending more than 3 minutes per month lammenting the existence of such a bias is perhaps LESS productive than aspiring filmmakers groaning incessantly over all the breaks Dakota Johnson's received, on account of being Hollywood royalty, rather than doing what's required to succeed

 

[Plinco]

The person who does the most productive work usually has the advantage.

 

[zekko]

I think men and women have different problems when it comes to dating.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It has nothing to do with ratios, it has to do with who is the chooser and who is the chosen ultimately.

This should be common sense. Mating strategies are about maximizing gene potential of your offspring and women do this by choosing the higher value mate they can attract typically.

That's why hot guys have flocks of women trying to fvck them while guys under a 5 have almost none that even want to date them unless they put in an extraordinary amount of extra work, and even then, many times the woman "settled" and ends up leaving after a few years because they realize they thought they could logically make a decision that was "safety and security" for them and their offspring but they realize they can't accept being with someone they never really wanted to be with in the first place.

 

[HaleyBaron]

This is why women should not be the ones making mating choices. Men, strong men at that, were the ones in power hundred years ago and earlier, and they kept civilization and humanity going because women and WEAK MEN had no say in the matter.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

No. Chads, celebs, athletes, etc are literally running harems, while Joe Shmoe is lucky to get a crumb of pvssy every 2 years.

 

[HaleyBaron]

No. Chads, celebs, athletes, etc are literally running harems, while Joe Shmoe is lucky to get a crumb of pvssy every 2 years.

And not just any pvssy. His pick is single mothers, used older women, widows, married women who want some attention, and even the disabled.

 

[Solomon]

No, online dating is not 1:1 and it happens to be the most common method used to meet somone.

Google AI says:

• Tinder: Around 75% to 78% male
• Bumble: Around 67% to 73% male
• Hinge: Around 64% male

Another common place to find women is in bars but even in those types of locations there are more men than women. They are never 1:1.

And plenty of women view marriage as a need...date a girl that is broke and see how hard she pushes marriage.

Add in the fact that women rarely approach and that throws off your 1:1 theory as well.

I will say with 1/3 men not working and another 1/3 living at home the quality of men can be lacking however, the ratio still favors women by far. Women are just terrible at picking men.

I remember one girl who just gotdivorced, cute 40-year-old; this was back in 2023. Had an extra ticket to a Katt Williams standup show. I was like "Hell yeah" Only thing I had to pay for was some beer. Later after the show, she confessed she Was dating a bum who was cheating on her, she would let him drive to work and she would give him her car, thinking he was looking for jobs. He was driving all over town, banging random women had like 6-8 of them. Meanwhile, the next guy..me? had to prove myself, got a good job, my own place etc. I politely declined

 

[Slowhandluke]

One hundred, or even fifty, years ago when men and women were expected to be married and procreating by their mid twenties the 1:1 ratio argument held a lot more water. Now nobody gets married and nobody is having kids so that makes that ratio irrelevant since nobody is expected to couple or breed at any point in their lives. Western culture has made it so convenient and accepted to live alone that it will eventually lead to its demise as birth rates plummet and people who despise the west are imported to take our place.

youtube videos of women complaining they can't find a man, cant get married, cant get anything more then a booty call... disagrees with your statement.

Same with all the surveys where women complain they are always depressed, not happy, etc..

People in general want to form monogamous relationships.. which means the ratio of men to women is important. Most women will not share a guy. only in very rare cases do they. but for the average woman, no... most women are already tired of serial dating (which is a "light' version of sharing)

 

[zekko]

I'd say women have the advantage for two reasons:
1) A greater percentage of women are considered attractive than men.
2) Women have better support systems if things go wrong.

 

[Slowhandluke]

I'd say women have the advantage for two reasons:
1) A greater percentage of women are considered attractive than men.

The average age of women in the usa is 40. Most 40 year old women are not any more attractive than the average 40 year old man (approx the same age). To be honest, I would think the average 40 year old man is more attractive...

2) Women have better support systems if things go wrong.

the same support system that tells them to "you go gurl!!!'... the support system sucks and gives them bad advice.. the average woman is not a unique snow flake..

 

[zekko]

The average age of women in the usa is 40. Most 40 year old women are not any more attractive than the average 40 year old man (approx the same age). To be honest, I would think the average 40 year old man is more attractive...

I was speaking more about "dating aged" girls.

 

[Slowhandluke]

I was speaking more about "dating aged" girls.

the majority of women in the usa is 40 years old.. and are single iirc. but yet u consider women as a whole to have the advantage in dating because when they were younger ("dating age") they had so much power so many prospects, etc.... I guess that is fine. But I doubt the average woman in the usa would feel so advantageous.... that sadly is the reality