"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Skyline

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Your analysis is generic platitudes. The OP was looking for technical advice.

Maintaining interest in frame is about negotiating what you want out of her, not “making sure she’s not primary focus.” Dating is a practice in negotiation.

Sleeping with a girl is indicator of interest in that specific moment. Interest level is not static. If the OP doesn’t tighten up his game, he will meet the same fate as what other men go through.. her interest level going from high as can be to dumping him.

the OP isn’t dead in the water yet, this is why the critique is nothing more than a warning of needed course correction.
The moment he starts caring about his actions is when her interest will drop. Women play games men do what they want.

His game is fine. He already got the lay and has another date set up.

The advice you gave is playing games. You already care too much if you have to think about purposely delaying messages and rescheduling because you're 'too open.'

If you have to go out of your way to maintain a girls interest then you already lost.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The moment he starts caring about his actions is when her interest will drop. Women play games men do what they want.

His game is fine. He already got the lay and has another date set up.

The advice you gave is playing games. You already care too much if you have to think about purposely delaying messages and rescheduling because you're 'too open.'

If you have to go out of your way to maintain a girls interest then you already lost.
Reality is based on action nit feelings. “Caring” doesn’t determine what brings home the goods. Suggesting the OP “not care” won’t lead this girl back into OP’s bed.

You can tell him he did everything right, but he so far hasn’t been acting as he knows what he’s doing.

Nice strawman. No one suggested purposefully delaying messages. Also, if you think OP seeing a woman he just met more than once a week is a good idea, you’re leading him astray yet again.
 

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Reality is based on action nit feelings. “Caring” doesn’t determine what brings home the goods. Suggesting the OP “not care” won’t lead this girl back into OP’s bed.

You can tell him he did everything right, but he so far hasn’t been acting as he knows what he’s doing.

Nice strawman. No one suggested purposefully delaying messages. Also, if you think OP seeing a woman he just met more than once a week is a good idea, you’re leading him astray yet again.
You can follow your set rules all you want. You're going to get frustrated.
 
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