"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Skyline

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Your analysis is generic platitudes. The OP was looking for technical advice.

Maintaining interest in frame is about negotiating what you want out of her, not “making sure she’s not primary focus.” Dating is a practice in negotiation.

Sleeping with a girl is indicator of interest in that specific moment. Interest level is not static. If the OP doesn’t tighten up his game, he will meet the same fate as what other men go through.. her interest level going from high as can be to dumping him.

the OP isn’t dead in the water yet, this is why the critique is nothing more than a warning of needed course correction.
The moment he starts caring about his actions is when her interest will drop. Women play games men do what they want.

His game is fine. He already got the lay and has another date set up.

The advice you gave is playing games. You already care too much if you have to think about purposely delaying messages and rescheduling because you're 'too open.'

If you have to go out of your way to maintain a girls interest then you already lost.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The moment he starts caring about his actions is when her interest will drop. Women play games men do what they want.

His game is fine. He already got the lay and has another date set up.

The advice you gave is playing games. You already care too much if you have to think about purposely delaying messages and rescheduling because you're 'too open.'

If you have to go out of your way to maintain a girls interest then you already lost.
Reality is based on action nit feelings. “Caring” doesn’t determine what brings home the goods. Suggesting the OP “not care” won’t lead this girl back into OP’s bed.

You can tell him he did everything right, but he so far hasn’t been acting as he knows what he’s doing.

Nice strawman. No one suggested purposefully delaying messages. Also, if you think OP seeing a woman he just met more than once a week is a good idea, you’re leading him astray yet again.
 

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Reality is based on action nit feelings. “Caring” doesn’t determine what brings home the goods. Suggesting the OP “not care” won’t lead this girl back into OP’s bed.

You can tell him he did everything right, but he so far hasn’t been acting as he knows what he’s doing.

Nice strawman. No one suggested purposefully delaying messages. Also, if you think OP seeing a woman he just met more than once a week is a good idea, you’re leading him astray yet again.
You can follow your set rules all you want. You're going to get frustrated.
 
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