"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Skyline

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Your analysis is generic platitudes. The OP was looking for technical advice.

Maintaining interest in frame is about negotiating what you want out of her, not “making sure she’s not primary focus.” Dating is a practice in negotiation.

Sleeping with a girl is indicator of interest in that specific moment. Interest level is not static. If the OP doesn’t tighten up his game, he will meet the same fate as what other men go through.. her interest level going from high as can be to dumping him.

the OP isn’t dead in the water yet, this is why the critique is nothing more than a warning of needed course correction.
The moment he starts caring about his actions is when her interest will drop. Women play games men do what they want.

His game is fine. He already got the lay and has another date set up.

The advice you gave is playing games. You already care too much if you have to think about purposely delaying messages and rescheduling because you're 'too open.'

If you have to go out of your way to maintain a girls interest then you already lost.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The moment he starts caring about his actions is when her interest will drop. Women play games men do what they want.

His game is fine. He already got the lay and has another date set up.

The advice you gave is playing games. You already care too much if you have to think about purposely delaying messages and rescheduling because you're 'too open.'

If you have to go out of your way to maintain a girls interest then you already lost.
Reality is based on action nit feelings. “Caring” doesn’t determine what brings home the goods. Suggesting the OP “not care” won’t lead this girl back into OP’s bed.

You can tell him he did everything right, but he so far hasn’t been acting as he knows what he’s doing.

Nice strawman. No one suggested purposefully delaying messages. Also, if you think OP seeing a woman he just met more than once a week is a good idea, you’re leading him astray yet again.
 

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Reality is based on action nit feelings. “Caring” doesn’t determine what brings home the goods. Suggesting the OP “not care” won’t lead this girl back into OP’s bed.

You can tell him he did everything right, but he so far hasn’t been acting as he knows what he’s doing.

Nice strawman. No one suggested purposefully delaying messages. Also, if you think OP seeing a woman he just met more than once a week is a good idea, you’re leading him astray yet again.
You can follow your set rules all you want. You're going to get frustrated.
 
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