I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This is bad advice. Interest level is not static. Just because they had sex doesn’t give OP a license to loosen the game. He has 2 dates in with this girl. It doesn’t take much to go from an exciting prospect to the lame AFC guy she regretfully had sex with once.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Unless he's smothering her, asking to meet up constantly, and confessing his feelings to her then she's not going anywhere.
This guy seems to align more with my style when it comes to dating. Hangout, have fun, and hookup. No BS in between
CW is beta as fvck. Its no wonder he got started "showing guys how to get their ex back". That's totally REACTIVE and not PROACTIVE to begin with.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Clearly you have only ever watched the videos and not read the book. I only read the book - videos are too personalized and dudes just crying about their One-itis.
This isn't the PUA community.
Yeah, either OP thinks he is far busier than he really is or OP isn't on top of things.
Clearly I don't give a shyte to read his book because I already know what his "technique" is. I'm sure he can help some severely inept me get one of their balls back. Have you ever realized that most of what it takes to attract women is common sense? Like "should I sleep with this chick again that is into me" type stuff? Lol.Clearly you have only ever watched the videos and not read the book. I only read the book - videos are too personalized and dudes just crying about their One-itis.
Regardless, it’s not about the book. The book is only a tool in a massive library of “tools”, such as other written/published items, Google, and you goons
.I own a small business, so that’s always the priority. Not making dates on top of seminars like the case would have been here...good for you, though lol
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She’s interested FOR NOW. Identify the mistakes will keep her on the hook. Sleeping with a chick once on the 2nd date is no guarantee of anything.
I agree with this, we will see what happens when I hear back from her
Why?
Once you say "drunken stupor," everything else is tainted.
Don't lose frame bro.
Act as you would if you had date with a 26 year old hot girl on Friday.
Nope lol. I don't live in NYC (although I happen to love NYC) and I'm white. I'm more of a truck/SUV guy but I do own my own businesses.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hahaha...I just find your posts (in general) very much like what he says...and like you I agree with most of what he says.
Declining her invite because 'the man is supposed to ask her out' is not 'keeping her on the hook.
Your analysis is generic platitudes. The OP was looking for technical advice.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.