Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
This is bad advice. Interest level is not static. Just because they had sex doesn’t give OP a license to loosen the game. He has 2 dates in with this girl. It doesn’t take much to go from an exciting prospect to the lame AFC guy she regretfully had sex with once.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Unless he's smothering her, asking to meet up constantly, and confessing his feelings to her then she's not going anywhere.
This guy seems to align more with my style when it comes to dating. Hangout, have fun, and hookup. No BS in between
CW is beta as fvck. Its no wonder he got started "showing guys how to get their ex back". That's totally REACTIVE and not PROACTIVE to begin with.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Clearly you have only ever watched the videos and not read the book. I only read the book - videos are too personalized and dudes just crying about their One-itis.
This isn't the PUA community.
Yeah, either OP thinks he is far busier than he really is or OP isn't on top of things.
Clearly I don't give a shyte to read his book because I already know what his "technique" is. I'm sure he can help some severely inept me get one of their balls back. Have you ever realized that most of what it takes to attract women is common sense? Like "should I sleep with this chick again that is into me" type stuff? Lol.Clearly you have only ever watched the videos and not read the book. I only read the book - videos are too personalized and dudes just crying about their One-itis.
Regardless, it’s not about the book. The book is only a tool in a massive library of “tools”, such as other written/published items, Google, and you goons
.I own a small business, so that’s always the priority. Not making dates on top of seminars like the case would have been here...good for you, though lol
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She’s interested FOR NOW. Identify the mistakes will keep her on the hook. Sleeping with a chick once on the 2nd date is no guarantee of anything.
I agree with this, we will see what happens when I hear back from her
Why?
Once you say "drunken stupor," everything else is tainted.
Don't lose frame bro.
Act as you would if you had date with a 26 year old hot girl on Friday.
Nope lol. I don't live in NYC (although I happen to love NYC) and I'm white. I'm more of a truck/SUV guy but I do own my own businesses.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hahaha...I just find your posts (in general) very much like what he says...and like you I agree with most of what he says.
Declining her invite because 'the man is supposed to ask her out' is not 'keeping her on the hook.
Your analysis is generic platitudes. The OP was looking for technical advice.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.