"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
BxPrince24
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But it depends on the relationship if shes a friend who cares what you write back. If your interested then its a different story.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I agree with u. I used to be such a challenge with her because I had so much going on with my life...and a good friends group to hang out with. I really didn't care one way or the other, but lately since i have developed feelings for her i'm just not the same. Now I have lost a lot of friends and I don't have many people to get together with.Ace_McGregor said:
I tried searching through the DJ bible, but couldn't really find any articles on being a challenge or anything like that - maybe i am just a bad searcher.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
so pimp gotta use that myself
Cool thx. I waited over an hour to reply...i guess that's not too bad. I actually wasn't gonna respond at all but decided to send back a token answer after i wasn't busy.Shezz said:
And the guys that are interested in her are usually either total AFC's, or just after easy hookups. I'm no DJ myself, but i'm a decent looking guy and even tho i don't have much game i'm not a huge afc IMO.
I've been trying to take control over the text/calling/msging game, i think i've turned the tides a little bit haha.
green69 said:
I'd have replied back with something like
"yeah if you want to get out of that line of women at my front door you can just go around back and leave that cake on the porch. What kind of cake did you make anyway?"
I've said things like that a number of times and it always leaves an impression. I get things like "remember when we were first talking and you said blah blah..."
The one an ex of mine brought up a few times was when i said to her on AIM EARLY in meeting her, "goddammit i'm tired of cleaning up all these panties off of my porch."
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Shezz said:
I like this post, except for a one thing. I think waiting 5-6 hours to respond to a text is kinda ridiculous. What sort of conversation can flow out of waiting 5-6 hours to respond? Personally, i respond right away, say whatever it is i wanna say, wait for her response, and repeat.
If she texts you saying shes bored, ask her whatsup? I dunno thats what i would do
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
"Busy. call me later"
Cod3r said:
Wow, im sorry but you have a lot to learn my friend (this is coming from a 17 year old too just so you know.) There are more important things when dealing with women than to stress over a text conversation.
Edit: However, i do agree with your original post, who cares what it means. That was kinda the point i wanted to get across
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.