"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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But it depends on the relationship if shes a friend who cares what you write back. If your interested then its a different story.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
Ace_McGregor
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Ace_McGregor
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I agree with u. I used to be such a challenge with her because I had so much going on with my life...and a good friends group to hang out with. I really didn't care one way or the other, but lately since i have developed feelings for her i'm just not the same. Now I have lost a lot of friends and I don't have many people to get together with.Ace_McGregor said:
I tried searching through the DJ bible, but couldn't really find any articles on being a challenge or anything like that - maybe i am just a bad searcher.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
so pimp gotta use that myself
Cool thx. I waited over an hour to reply...i guess that's not too bad. I actually wasn't gonna respond at all but decided to send back a token answer after i wasn't busy.Shezz said:
And the guys that are interested in her are usually either total AFC's, or just after easy hookups. I'm no DJ myself, but i'm a decent looking guy and even tho i don't have much game i'm not a huge afc IMO.
I've been trying to take control over the text/calling/msging game, i think i've turned the tides a little bit haha.
green69 said:
I'd have replied back with something like
"yeah if you want to get out of that line of women at my front door you can just go around back and leave that cake on the porch. What kind of cake did you make anyway?"
I've said things like that a number of times and it always leaves an impression. I get things like "remember when we were first talking and you said blah blah..."
The one an ex of mine brought up a few times was when i said to her on AIM EARLY in meeting her, "goddammit i'm tired of cleaning up all these panties off of my porch."
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Shezz said:
I like this post, except for a one thing. I think waiting 5-6 hours to respond to a text is kinda ridiculous. What sort of conversation can flow out of waiting 5-6 hours to respond? Personally, i respond right away, say whatever it is i wanna say, wait for her response, and repeat.
If she texts you saying shes bored, ask her whatsup? I dunno thats what i would do
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
"Busy. call me later"
Cod3r said:
Wow, im sorry but you have a lot to learn my friend (this is coming from a 17 year old too just so you know.) There are more important things when dealing with women than to stress over a text conversation.
Edit: However, i do agree with your original post, who cares what it means. That was kinda the point i wanted to get across
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.