"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Text messaging
- Thread starter green69
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
BxPrince24
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But it depends on the relationship if shes a friend who cares what you write back. If your interested then its a different story.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I agree with u. I used to be such a challenge with her because I had so much going on with my life...and a good friends group to hang out with. I really didn't care one way or the other, but lately since i have developed feelings for her i'm just not the same. Now I have lost a lot of friends and I don't have many people to get together with.Ace_McGregor said:
I tried searching through the DJ bible, but couldn't really find any articles on being a challenge or anything like that - maybe i am just a bad searcher.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
so pimp gotta use that myself
Cool thx. I waited over an hour to reply...i guess that's not too bad. I actually wasn't gonna respond at all but decided to send back a token answer after i wasn't busy.Shezz said:
And the guys that are interested in her are usually either total AFC's, or just after easy hookups. I'm no DJ myself, but i'm a decent looking guy and even tho i don't have much game i'm not a huge afc IMO.
I've been trying to take control over the text/calling/msging game, i think i've turned the tides a little bit haha.
green69 said:
I'd have replied back with something like
"yeah if you want to get out of that line of women at my front door you can just go around back and leave that cake on the porch. What kind of cake did you make anyway?"
I've said things like that a number of times and it always leaves an impression. I get things like "remember when we were first talking and you said blah blah..."
The one an ex of mine brought up a few times was when i said to her on AIM EARLY in meeting her, "goddammit i'm tired of cleaning up all these panties off of my porch."
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Shezz said:
I like this post, except for a one thing. I think waiting 5-6 hours to respond to a text is kinda ridiculous. What sort of conversation can flow out of waiting 5-6 hours to respond? Personally, i respond right away, say whatever it is i wanna say, wait for her response, and repeat.
If she texts you saying shes bored, ask her whatsup? I dunno thats what i would do
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
"Busy. call me later"
Cod3r said:
Wow, im sorry but you have a lot to learn my friend (this is coming from a 17 year old too just so you know.) There are more important things when dealing with women than to stress over a text conversation.
Edit: However, i do agree with your original post, who cares what it means. That was kinda the point i wanted to get across
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.