Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I agree with u. I used to be such a challenge with her because I had so much going on with my life...and a good friends group to hang out with. I really didn't care one way or the other, but lately since i have developed feelings for her i'm just not the same. Now I have lost a lot of friends and I don't have many people to get together with.Ace_McGregor said:Just use the tips from this site, and you'll slowly raise her IL if she is genuinely interested. Some of the "grey area" girls are interested in you, but they think they can have you with out any kind of fight (probably b/c you have shown too much interest in the past). This isn't any fun to have a guy that's not a challenge - so they put you on the back burner, and look for guys that are a challenge. Challenge = excitement. Get control back of the situation and make her think that YOU'RE the one doing the choosing.
Cool thx. I waited over an hour to reply...i guess that's not too bad. I actually wasn't gonna respond at all but decided to send back a token answer after i wasn't busy.Shezz said:The best way to handle a text message from a chick, and not just one like the example given but ANY text message is to simply ignore it. Don't respond. It drives them nuts.
Chicks LOVE when guys give them attention, and lets make no mistake about this - YOUR NOT THE ONLY GUY SHE'S TEXTING.
She's probably got 5 or 6 (more if shes really hot) guys texting her and calling her, trying to get her to go out for dinner, trying to get her to meet up, fawning over her, just basically being AFC and making her out to be a god damn princess...don't get suckered in.
In my AFC days, my ex-gf would always tell me that when she used to text guys, the ones that didn't respond to her, or the ones that did respond but with very little effort were the ones that raised her interest. It shows that you have better things to do. And the worst thing of all that you can do? Respond straight away. Thats a big no no.
Wait maybe 5-6 hours later and then respond, or even let it marinate, wait until she texts you again, showing more interest in you, then text her back - when she again texts you, rinse and repeat. Always maintain the upper hand, after a few days of this, call her up out of the blue one night and set up a meet.
Sarge On...
green69 said:When a girl texts you during the day saying "I'm bored!"...does that pretty much mean
"Please give me attention!" ?
Shezz said:The best way to handle a text message from a chick, and not just one like the example given but ANY text message is to simply ignore it. Don't respond. It drives them nuts.
Chicks LOVE when guys give them attention, and lets make no mistake about this - YOUR NOT THE ONLY GUY SHE'S TEXTING.
She's probably got 5 or 6 (more if shes really hot) guys texting her and calling her, trying to get her to go out for dinner, trying to get her to meet up, fawning over her, just basically being AFC and making her out to be a god damn princess...don't get suckered in.
In my AFC days, my ex-gf would always tell me that when she used to text guys, the ones that didn't respond to her, or the ones that did respond but with very little effort were the ones that raised her interest. It shows that you have better things to do. And the worst thing of all that you can do? Respond straight away. Thats a big no no.
Wait maybe 5-6 hours later and then respond, or even let it marinate, wait until she texts you again, showing more interest in you, then text her back - when she again texts you, rinse and repeat. Always maintain the upper hand, after a few days of this, call her up out of the blue one night and set up a meet.
Sarge On...
I'm assuming you don't get laid... correct ?? Nevermind, don't even answer, I'll take your unresponsiveness as a 'no'... tks for playing btwIf she texts you saying shes bored, ask her whatsup? I dunno thats what i would do
Cod3r said:I'm assuming you don't get laid... correct ?? Nevermind, don't even answer, I'll take your unresponsiveness as a 'no'... tks for playing btw
-COd3r
Actually I take back my last post that was directed at you, I've been posting rather foul things lately, don't take offense... It's that time of the month :flowers:There are more important things when dealing with women than to stress over a text conversation.