"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Has anyone have advice for me how to spend actively time during summer?

I'm 23 years old and I want to spend more time outside because I have to improve my health and my well-being.

In my opinion it's very good to spend as much time as it possible at fresh air but I haven't got idea what can I do outside?

Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Has anyone have advice for me how to spend actively time during summer?

I'm 23 years old and I want to spend more time outside because I have to improve my health and my well-being.

In my opinion it's very good to spend as much time as it possible at fresh air but I haven't got idea what can I do outside?

Thanks.
So much depends on where you live. But generally speaking, there are always outdoor activities waiting to be discovered and enjoyed. I live in the outdoor mecca of the US so it might be easier for me to find such activities all year round, not just in summer, but start by looking at your region and what it has to offer. Also finding community groups with similar interests (meetup, FB groups, community events, etc)

Summer usually translates to water activities, rivers, the ocean, lakes, etc. Those are easy places to start, perhaps paddleboarding, kayaking swimming, tubing, etc.

The biggest thing is to find and socialize with people that are doing the things you enjoy/want to do. From there you'll discover even more activities or events (live music, street markets, fairs, etc, etc).

Summer also translates into camping and road-tripping. Look into that as well. For as much as being social is healthy, so is being alone to recharge, realign, introspect, etc. Camping and road-tripping give you a good outlet to be outside and face your existence and learn about yourself. Not to mention the places you will get to experience.

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So much depends on where you live. But generally speaking, there are always outdoor activities waiting to be discovered and enjoyed. I live in the outdoor mecca of the US so it might be easier for me to find such activities all year round, not just in summer, but start by looking at your region and what it has to offer. Also finding community groups with similar interests (meetup, FB groups, community events, etc)

Summer usually translates to water activities, rivers, the ocean, lakes, etc. Those are easy places to start, perhaps paddleboarding, kayaking swimming, tubing, etc.

The biggest thing is to find and socialize with people that are doing the things you enjoy/want to do. From there you'll discover even more activities or events (live music, street markets, fairs, etc, etc).

Summer also translates into camping and road-tripping. Look into that as well. For as much as being social is healthy, so is being alone to recharge, realign, introspect, etc. Camping and road-tripping give you a good outlet to be outside and face your existence and learn about yourself. Not to mention the places you will get to experience.

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Have you ever be at camping?
Can you describe your experience?
How should I prepare for camping?
Thanks for your answears.
 

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Have you ever be at camping?
Can you describe your experience?
How should I prepare for camping?
Thanks for your answears.
Have you ever be at camping? - Many times
Can you describe your experience? - Exciting, thrilling, challenging, relaxing
How should I prepare for camping? - Youtube it

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not many things look better to a woman than a man with a good shirtless tan. Find a swimming pool you like, scope bikinis, be active and learn the double gainer dive (easy as long as you get good distance from the board on launch and guaranteed to get female attention), have fun, don’t burn, and don’t wear a ball cap.
 
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Hi ;)
Has anyone have advice for me how to spend actively time during summer?

I'm 23 years old and I want to spend more time outside because I have to improve my health and my well-being.

In my opinion it's very good to spend as much time as it possible at fresh air but I haven't got idea what can I do outside?

Thanks.
Hiking, kayaking, walking, running, beaches, parks, biking, bonfires, roadtrips, adventures to new places, amusement parks, etc, etc...

None of these things is earth shatteringly complex to come up with...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yup and make first dates active dates, has many many positives. Go hiking with a new prospect right off the bat, you get to see her body, how it moves, how motivated she is. You get isolation with her which is key. I declare today’s word is propinquity- look it up.
 

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Tennis

Exercising at a football track field (sprints, tire flips, whatever)

Hikes

Beaches/Swimming
 

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Hi ;)
Has anyone have advice for me how to spend actively time during summer?

I'm 23 years old and I want to spend more time outside because I have to improve my health and my well-being.

In my opinion it's very good to spend as much time as it possible at fresh air but I haven't got idea what can I do outside?

Thanks.
i golf, fish, walk, jog, do a ton of yard work... pave my driveway....sit on my deck and read... or drink... I make sure I get a ton of sunlight in the winter as well... I’ve always found I rarely get sick when my vitamin d levels are adequate.
 

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Not many things look better to a woman than a man with a good shirtless tan. Find a swimming pool you like, scope bikinis, be active and learn the double gainer dive (easy as long as you get good distance from the board on launch and guaranteed to get female attention), have fun, don’t burn, and don’t wear a ball cap.
Actually I am a women and I don't want to impress anyone. I just keen on sports and I want find a new activities which I can do outside
 

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Actually I am a women and I don't want to impress anyone. I just keen on sports and I want find a new activities which I can do outside
Sorry about that, you should include that in your visible username bio details as this is a men’s forum…
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sorry about that, you should include that in your visible username bio details as this is a men’s forum…
Don't worry. I didn't know that this forum is only for men but I think it's not a big deal because my question is universal ;)
 

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Has anyone have advice for me how to spend actively time during summer?

I'm 23 years old and I want to spend more time outside because I have to improve my health and my well-being.

In my opinion it's very good to spend as much time as it possible at fresh air but I haven't got idea what can I do outside?

Thanks.
I also like sports and I want find new activities.
 

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Don't worry. I didn't know that this forum is only for men but I think it's not a big deal because my question is universal ;)
It isn't a men's only forum but it is primarily male. There are a few female participants.
 
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