Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
[R]eality said:To close political and racial threads is cowardly, especially if they're in the anything else section.
Whales: The Forgotten Minority....piranha45 said:address the politics but skip the whales, so typical
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think you'll find that gay whales are the true minority here, yet you ignore their plight completely. What are you, homophobic?piranha45 said:address the politics but skip the whales, so typical
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Those gay sperm whales are the way that they are because they could only score a "6" on HotOrNot.com.manuva said:I think you'll find that gay whales are the true minority here, yet you ignore their plight completely. What are you, homophobic?
In all my journeys here, I have never seen someone with the brains to add an ignore link to a topic.click the link below to ignore [R]eality
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/profile...ignore&u=29008
Seeing as how the rules of the forum specifically state that threads of a political and/or racist manner are not allowed, and also seeing that the owner of the site rarely locks down any threads himself, just what are you saying is cowardly? Obviously you aren't calling him cowardly since he didn't actually close any threads himself, but no intelligent person would call the people whose jobs it is to enforce the rules cowardly simply for abiding by the terms of the forum that everyone agreed to by registering a username.[R]eality said:To close political and racial threads is cowardly, especially if they're in the anything else section.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It always turns into a fight! ALWAYS..... 100% of the time. If people were mature enough to talk about sh*t w/o flaming maybe it would work, but that sadly isn't the case.Morphiex said:idk why , it was a nice sivil discussion so far ...
Your mistake is thinking this is a democracy in this case. This is still a privately owned website where the person shelling out the cash for the runnings and operation calls all the shots. We could vote till the cows came home but it's really up to him to say what stays and what goes. Although the site "needs" members, i suppose, there's little any of us could do besides petition him and hope he hears us and agrees with our point(s) (which I don't see happening) or boycott the site (which is equally unlikely) until the message is heard. Sorry but that's the reality of the situation. There's one man's ruling and little any of us can do to change things around here.Deus ex Pianoforte said:However, it's not my site so that's not my call. In all fairness though, this site could not exist without members, so we should get some say in what should and should not be open for discussion.
If we put those types of issues up for a vote, I think the auto-censoring would be the first to go. (Like people really don't know what we're saying when we see "f'uck" or "pvssy".)
By the way, anyone who is pissed off about those rules can blame me. Anyone who was around in 2001 and 2002 knows why.diablo said:Seeing as how the rules of the forum specifically state that threads of a political and/or racist manner are not allowed...
piranha45 said:also, this site doesn't spend enough time trying to help save the whales; pretty soon they'll all be dead and we'll have noone but sosuave to blame for it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.