You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
[R]eality said:To close political and racial threads is cowardly, especially if they're in the anything else section.
Whales: The Forgotten Minority....piranha45 said:address the politics but skip the whales, so typical
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I think you'll find that gay whales are the true minority here, yet you ignore their plight completely. What are you, homophobic?piranha45 said:address the politics but skip the whales, so typical
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Those gay sperm whales are the way that they are because they could only score a "6" on HotOrNot.com.manuva said:I think you'll find that gay whales are the true minority here, yet you ignore their plight completely. What are you, homophobic?
In all my journeys here, I have never seen someone with the brains to add an ignore link to a topic.click the link below to ignore [R]eality
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/profile...ignore&u=29008
Seeing as how the rules of the forum specifically state that threads of a political and/or racist manner are not allowed, and also seeing that the owner of the site rarely locks down any threads himself, just what are you saying is cowardly? Obviously you aren't calling him cowardly since he didn't actually close any threads himself, but no intelligent person would call the people whose jobs it is to enforce the rules cowardly simply for abiding by the terms of the forum that everyone agreed to by registering a username.[R]eality said:To close political and racial threads is cowardly, especially if they're in the anything else section.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It always turns into a fight! ALWAYS..... 100% of the time. If people were mature enough to talk about sh*t w/o flaming maybe it would work, but that sadly isn't the case.Morphiex said:idk why , it was a nice sivil discussion so far ...
Your mistake is thinking this is a democracy in this case. This is still a privately owned website where the person shelling out the cash for the runnings and operation calls all the shots. We could vote till the cows came home but it's really up to him to say what stays and what goes. Although the site "needs" members, i suppose, there's little any of us could do besides petition him and hope he hears us and agrees with our point(s) (which I don't see happening) or boycott the site (which is equally unlikely) until the message is heard. Sorry but that's the reality of the situation. There's one man's ruling and little any of us can do to change things around here.Deus ex Pianoforte said:However, it's not my site so that's not my call. In all fairness though, this site could not exist without members, so we should get some say in what should and should not be open for discussion.
If we put those types of issues up for a vote, I think the auto-censoring would be the first to go. (Like people really don't know what we're saying when we see "f'uck" or "pvssy".)
By the way, anyone who is pissed off about those rules can blame me. Anyone who was around in 2001 and 2002 knows why.diablo said:Seeing as how the rules of the forum specifically state that threads of a political and/or racist manner are not allowed...
piranha45 said:also, this site doesn't spend enough time trying to help save the whales; pretty soon they'll all be dead and we'll have noone but sosuave to blame for it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.