"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stupid, cowardly moderation on the forums.

[R]eality

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To close political and racial threads is cowardly, especially if they're in the anything else section.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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piranha45

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also, this site doesn't spend enough time trying to help save the whales; pretty soon they'll all be dead and we'll have noone but sosuave to blame for it.
 

Skel

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[R]eality said:
To close political and racial threads is cowardly, especially if they're in the anything else section.

Go to political crossfire if you want to talk politics. In otherwords. GTFO!
 

piranha45

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address the politics but skip the whales, so typical
 

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piranha45 said:
address the politics but skip the whales, so typical
Whales: The Forgotten Minority....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Oh hay look at this, someone new telling us how to do our job. What a suprise :rolleyes:
 

piranha45

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WELL DUH NIGHTAWK, just like there are different races of whale
 

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piranha45 said:
address the politics but skip the whales, so typical
I think you'll find that gay whales are the true minority here, yet you ignore their plight completely. What are you, homophobic?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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manuva said:
I think you'll find that gay whales are the true minority here, yet you ignore their plight completely. What are you, homophobic?
Those gay sperm whales are the way that they are because they could only score a "6" on HotOrNot.com.
 

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[R]eality SHUT YOUR F*CKIN STUPID ASS UP!!!!!!

If you're looking to get racial and SHlT go somewhere else.... this is the internet there are 18,000,000 places you can go, those are the rules of THIS forum just f*ckin live with it!!!!

Man the F*ck up and stop complaining all the time. Only females vent that much and that's only because they have menstraul cycles. All that time you're talking about politics and racist sh*t you could be out there getting your little Dlck sucked...


click the link below to ignore [R]eality
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/profile.php?do=addlist&userlist=ignore&u=29008
 

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[R]eality said:
To close political and racial threads is cowardly, especially if they're in the anything else section.
Seeing as how the rules of the forum specifically state that threads of a political and/or racist manner are not allowed, and also seeing that the owner of the site rarely locks down any threads himself, just what are you saying is cowardly? Obviously you aren't calling him cowardly since he didn't actually close any threads himself, but no intelligent person would call the people whose jobs it is to enforce the rules cowardly simply for abiding by the terms of the forum that everyone agreed to by registering a username.

After all, isn't that like calling a police officer a coward because he pulled you over when you were speeding? Why stop there? You may as well call the doctor who washes his hands before performing your vasectomy a coward too. After all, it's quite cowardly to follow these "rules" and "regulations"... isn't it?

:rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yeah i understand the rules and the reason for the rules but , your putting many discussions loosly under the term racial or political , there was a discussion about different cultures , and striclty cultures and the terms races was used and boom it was closed ... idk why , it was a nice sivil discussion so far ...
 

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Morphiex said:
idk why , it was a nice sivil discussion so far ...
It always turns into a fight! ALWAYS..... 100% of the time. If people were mature enough to talk about sh*t w/o flaming maybe it would work, but that sadly isn't the case.

Besides, those are the only threads that ever get attention. Someone could be dying to get advice and no one would answer but something about race, or politics come up and BAM!! 50 posts in 30 minutes.
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
However, it's not my site so that's not my call. In all fairness though, this site could not exist without members, so we should get some say in what should and should not be open for discussion.

If we put those types of issues up for a vote, I think the auto-censoring would be the first to go. (Like people really don't know what we're saying when we see "f'uck" or "pvssy".)
Your mistake is thinking this is a democracy in this case. This is still a privately owned website where the person shelling out the cash for the runnings and operation calls all the shots. We could vote till the cows came home but it's really up to him to say what stays and what goes. Although the site "needs" members, i suppose, there's little any of us could do besides petition him and hope he hears us and agrees with our point(s) (which I don't see happening) or boycott the site (which is equally unlikely) until the message is heard. Sorry but that's the reality of the situation. There's one man's ruling and little any of us can do to change things around here.
 

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diablo said:
Seeing as how the rules of the forum specifically state that threads of a political and/or racist manner are not allowed...
By the way, anyone who is pissed off about those rules can blame me. Anyone who was around in 2001 and 2002 knows why.
 

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piranha45 said:
also, this site doesn't spend enough time trying to help save the whales; pretty soon they'll all be dead and we'll have noone but sosuave to blame for it.

amen
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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