That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
With a view to making it 36 if you're not careful, get back to eating.wolf116 said:Well warboss Alex has me on 24 eggs a day!!!!!!!!![]()
Thats hardcore.Warboss Alex said:With a view to making it 36 if you're not careful, get back to eating.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is not good thinking Spes:nono: Kind of thinking that leads to lackluster results.spesmilitis said:Speaking of BOR's, progress has been very slow for the BOR. As for the presses, I'm not too concerned about them until my BOR is as much as my bench.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
they're like the cheapest calories out there.. isn't it a dollar for a dozen or something?i am me said:iono bout u guys but i cant afford 24-36 eggs a day lol
Spes, try and include the number of sets and reps you used for all your worksets, with the weight used as well, it's kinda confusing right now. Let's see what you have decided upon for your routine as well, sets and reps included please!spesmilitis said:deadlift: 330x4
OH squats
pull up: 55x9
BOR
Grip work
Curls
Decline heavy abs
that workout is a step in the right direction.. why the OH squats? do curls before grip.spesmilitis said:deadlift: 330x4
OH squats
pull up: 55x9
BOR
Grip work
Curls
Decline heavy abs
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your workout confuses me slightly. Of course it could be my own experience that is confusing me. It just seems odd to me that you are doing for deads:spesmilitis said:To Quaq:
Warm up sets excluded:
Deadlift: 285x2, 315x1, 330x4
OH squat: 5x5 for 45lbs
pull up: 55x9, 30x9
BOR: 5-7 reps of 95 lbs
I'll put in the 20-reppers if I can't put weight on my squat ever week or almost ever week. I'll start doing ATG only just this next work out, so I am unsure of what my progress will be. I'll probably start with 5-10 reppers and adjust from there.
To WBA:
OH squats for core development. At 45 lbs I doubt I'm working my legs =p
I figured I should do curls before grip when I couldn't do curl cuz my grip was too sore.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.