Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
With a view to making it 36 if you're not careful, get back to eating.wolf116 said:Well warboss Alex has me on 24 eggs a day!!!!!!!!![]()
Thats hardcore.Warboss Alex said:With a view to making it 36 if you're not careful, get back to eating.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
This is not good thinking Spes:nono: Kind of thinking that leads to lackluster results.spesmilitis said:Speaking of BOR's, progress has been very slow for the BOR. As for the presses, I'm not too concerned about them until my BOR is as much as my bench.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
they're like the cheapest calories out there.. isn't it a dollar for a dozen or something?i am me said:iono bout u guys but i cant afford 24-36 eggs a day lol
Spes, try and include the number of sets and reps you used for all your worksets, with the weight used as well, it's kinda confusing right now. Let's see what you have decided upon for your routine as well, sets and reps included please!spesmilitis said:deadlift: 330x4
OH squats
pull up: 55x9
BOR
Grip work
Curls
Decline heavy abs
that workout is a step in the right direction.. why the OH squats? do curls before grip.spesmilitis said:deadlift: 330x4
OH squats
pull up: 55x9
BOR
Grip work
Curls
Decline heavy abs
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your workout confuses me slightly. Of course it could be my own experience that is confusing me. It just seems odd to me that you are doing for deads:spesmilitis said:To Quaq:
Warm up sets excluded:
Deadlift: 285x2, 315x1, 330x4
OH squat: 5x5 for 45lbs
pull up: 55x9, 30x9
BOR: 5-7 reps of 95 lbs
I'll put in the 20-reppers if I can't put weight on my squat ever week or almost ever week. I'll start doing ATG only just this next work out, so I am unsure of what my progress will be. I'll probably start with 5-10 reppers and adjust from there.
To WBA:
OH squats for core development. At 45 lbs I doubt I'm working my legs =p
I figured I should do curls before grip when I couldn't do curl cuz my grip was too sore.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.