logicallefty
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We have had some good conversations about cheating women. Do 50% cheat? 60%? 100%? 0%?
Let's see where we are on here.
Let's see where we are on here.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thank you for the input. There are some guys on here that seem more non jaded than the majority of us. I am anxious to see how our community lines up with the media reports we talked about that said 50% or 60% (of married women) cheat. Maybe it's just those of us who are the most active who have been cheated on? May be lots of guys on here who never post and never have been. I hope to hear from them too.Epimanes said:I think you will find the majority of men here have all been cheated on or are feeling jaded for some reason. This poll is biased.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
shut up titac. This is a decent thread. Some one needs to bring it up. and people should talk about it. Otherwise your perpetuating some blue pill mentality, and just accepting it.Tictac said:How the Hell would you get a percentage of women that 'cheat' from this 'survey'?
Don't quit your day job.
:crackup: hilarious!Tictac said:How the Hell would you get a percentage of women that 'cheat' from this 'survey'?
Don't quit your day job.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Oh I know.. Never say never. I don't buy into all of the MB program. Just what was necessary to up my good beta for plan A. My situation was no where near as bad as most of the stories on MB. But she/we def rode a slippery slope for quite some time. Wish I had of found this place and marriedmansex life sooner. BUT that's behind us now. My wife is very obviously attracted now. We are becoming the couple everyone hates it seems and this has been happening for a steady 2 years. All extraordinary precautions in those departments are covered.Albatross953 said:Epi, you know you'd never try to say an EA isn't adultery at the MB forum, you'd get crucified.
She's at a high risk to do it again.
You're at high risk of retaliation.
She can't have contact with that dude again.
Whether you buy all the MB kool aid or not, I'd be real about my situation if I was you.
All due respect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thank you Sir.pbsurf said:I like the thread LL. Some real life sh*t, not just theory.
And i don't care if its a biased poll - the numbers are still f-d up.
I dont think its skewed. Of course it could be 1/10 or 1/100, that a man thinks or knows he was cheated on in an ltr.Peaks&Valleys said:This Poll is skewed, and it will shoot out biased statistics (like most statistics)
"How?" or "Blah, blah, you're an idiot P&V"
No, I'm smart. Listen up:
So, if you were in 10 LTR's in your life and you got cheated on ONCE, possibly in your AFC days, or possibly you just fell under the spell of the wrong woman, if it happened ONCE out of TEN times, then you'd be checking the FOR SURE cheated on box.
So, if everyone got cheated on 1 out of 10 times and checked the FOR SURE box, then the outcome of this survey would be that women cheat 100% of the time, although in truth, it would be only 10% of the time.
Good effort lefty but you left out my category all together so I had to check the "Hey Lefty this survey is stupid category."
I would like to say: "I know for a fact I have never been cheated on, EVER" But I can't in 100% confidence say this.
Mine would be: "For the most part, I don't believe I've ever been cheated on."
There was one time long ago, but we were broken up but not really, and I don't know if she actually hooked up with another guy, but their were signs that she might be seeing someone else, blah, blah. So, "for the most part" works for me.
So what did you vote for exactly?wishyo said:Nobody shared my opinion.. yet
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.