You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don't feel bad. Mine technically would not have been shared either and thus I didn't even put it as one of the choices. Mine would have been:wishyo said:Nobody shared my opinion.. yet
Tictac is completely right here. There's nothing wrong with the survey per se, but it won't reveal what percentage of women cheat. It will reveal what percentage of guys on the forum get cheated on. Most guys on here will have dated numerous women, and some may even have been married more than once. A guy might have dated 20 women and maybe one might have cheated on him.Tictac said:How the Hell would you get a percentage of women that 'cheat' from this 'survey'?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"I am gay and don't date women." lollogicallefty said:Don't feel bad. Mine technically would not have been shared either and thus I didn't even put it as one of the choices. Mine would have been:
"I was FOR SURE cheated on by a woman I married and thought was my wife but then I found out she was a bigamist and married to TWO other dudes in TWO other States so we had an annulment and thus were never lawfully married under Illinois law"
I choose the "While in a LTR I was FOR SURE cheated on" which was really accurate too. Sense we were not lawfully married I am not bound to ever call her my "ex wife". I hear through the grapevine that she still calls me her "ex husband" though. I always correct anyone who refers to her as my ex wife.
Thank you for being gay..wishyo said:"I am gay and don't date women." lol![]()
Posters that are in constant search of threads to fuel their confirmation bias. :yes:noobolgy said:What kind of retard would take the numbers at face value?
"most" is the key word here. And I'm not sure if I'd go that far.noobolgy said:You have to take the things you stated into account, I did, and I assume most others would also.
I agree. And it's a thread that could give the opportunity for the guys who haven't, or rarely, been cheated on to tell their side. Most of the time it's the guys that have been cheated on who are the ones speaking up, which isn't bad, but it's only one perspective.Its making for some good fun and discussion.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.