"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Some don’t wear rings

Claudio1975

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How does a man ascertain if a woman is married without seeing a ring? It’s been my observation that many Asian women don’t wear a ring signifying marriage.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alvafe

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I know its a cultural thing, depending where you are there is others things who tell if a woman is taken or not, the ring was a western thing who a lot of eartern country did take, but I don't belive most did and or still use the old tradition on they places are
 

backseatjuan

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You do not ascertain if she is married or have a boyfriend, you go to gym, get a good haircut, wear brand name clothes that fit, become hot, women will notice and there will be signals of attraction, you react to those signals, never given a damn if she's taken or not.
 

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The taken ones give you the naughty sex.

The only girls I don't mess with are the "emotionally unavailable" and those are obvious.
 

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When I see a young man wearing a wedding ring, it reminds me of seeing water buffalo's with a ring attached to its nose and being pulled to plough the rice fields of Asia.

Such hardworking animals.

Certainly admirable.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Claudio1975

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When I see a young man wearing a wedding ring, it reminds me of seeing water buffalo's with a ring attached to its nose and being pulled to plough the rice fields of Asia.

Such hardworking animals.

Certainly admirable.
I once had a minister of all people tell me my ex was “leading me by the nose” and that as long as I was afraid to lose her she’d continue to do so. I guess he knew things.
 

devilkingx2

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The only reason she would be married and not wearing a ring is:

1. She's curving you by lying
2. She's an attention wh0re/tease
3. She's a cheating slvt

It probably won't be too hard to figure out which is which.
 

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I wouldn't worry about it. You don't explain why you are asking this question so I will assume you ask because you want to avoid hitting on married women. If she's not wearing a ring then simply don't worry about the chance of her being taken. Women without rings often have boyfriends and you can't tell that just by looking either, so just do the approach and if she has a husband or boyfriend that she wants to be faithful to, she will tell you.
 

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Well she ignored my text and when I followed the advice I received to just act like everything is cool the next time I saw her in person she was “politely rude” (non-engaging). So, next.
 

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Well she ignored my text and when I followed the advice I received to just act like everything is cool the next time I saw her in person she was “politely rude” (non-engaging). So, next.
On to the next one
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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