Claudio1975
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 15, 2019
- Messages
- 21
- Reaction score
- 11
- Age
- 50
How does a man ascertain if a woman is married without seeing a ring? It’s been my observation that many Asian women don’t wear a ring signifying marriage.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I once had a minister of all people tell me my ex was “leading me by the nose” and that as long as I was afraid to lose her she’d continue to do so. I guess he knew things.When I see a young man wearing a wedding ring, it reminds me of seeing water buffalo's with a ring attached to its nose and being pulled to plough the rice fields of Asia.
Such hardworking animals.
Certainly admirable.
On to the next oneWell she ignored my text and when I followed the advice I received to just act like everything is cool the next time I saw her in person she was “politely rude” (non-engaging). So, next.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.