Claudio1975
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 15, 2019
- Messages
- 21
- Reaction score
- 11
- Age
- 50
How does a man ascertain if a woman is married without seeing a ring? It’s been my observation that many Asian women don’t wear a ring signifying marriage.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I once had a minister of all people tell me my ex was “leading me by the nose” and that as long as I was afraid to lose her she’d continue to do so. I guess he knew things.When I see a young man wearing a wedding ring, it reminds me of seeing water buffalo's with a ring attached to its nose and being pulled to plough the rice fields of Asia.
Such hardworking animals.
Certainly admirable.
On to the next oneWell she ignored my text and when I followed the advice I received to just act like everything is cool the next time I saw her in person she was “politely rude” (non-engaging). So, next.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.