Milfhunter95
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Is it just around my area that it's considered weird to DM a girl on social media these days? I never really understood why, just a few years ago it was okay
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It really depends on what the message is.....not the fact that you send a message.
I would normally only DM someone on FB or Instagram under 2 conditions (obviously if I have interest):
1.) she posts something that I am very knowledgeable about or interested in.
2.) We have several mutual friends that I am close with and would give good feedback about me.
Example:
Woman posts a pic that catches my eye, so I send her "Well hello lol. I just saw the pic of you out boating this weekend. What group of people do you normally boat with?"
A woman added me 2 weeks ago. She was cute, single and we have several mutual friends.
"Hello lol. Curious, how do you know _______?". That led to a lay 8 days later.
If I send a DM, its always a curious question, friendly and non aggressive. Based on how she responds determines if I reply back or not. Most of the time she will turn my question into a question of her own if there is interest on her part.... "Hey! I know so and so....how do you know him/her?"
"hey! Yeah I go out with so and so on their boat on occasion. Do you know them and do you have a boat"?
Rarely a chick doesnt read the message or doesnt respond. Dont sweat it. Its a numbers game.
I would normally only DM someone on FB or Instagram under 2 conditions (obviously if I have interest):
1.) she posts something that I am very knowledgeable about or interested in.
2.) We have several mutual friends that I am close with and would give good feedback about me.
Example:
Woman posts a pic that catches my eye, so I send her "Well hello lol. I just saw the pic of you out boating this weekend. What group of people do you normally boat with?"
A woman added me 2 weeks ago. She was cute, single and we have several mutual friends.
"Hello lol. Curious, how do you know _______?". That led to a lay 8 days later.
If I send a DM, its always a curious question, friendly and non aggressive. Based on how she responds determines if I reply back or not. Most of the time she will turn my question into a question of her own if there is interest on her part.... "Hey! I know so and so....how do you know him/her?"
"hey! Yeah I go out with so and so on their boat on occasion. Do you know them and do you have a boat"?
Rarely a chick doesnt read the message or doesnt respond. Dont sweat it. Its a numbers game.
Milfhunter95
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I agree with you that's the only way I DM a girl too.
But this isn't really a question about me. I have a buddy who has messaged girls I know, and if I'm ever out with them, they'll say something along the lines like "Ew, so and so DM'd me. I didn't respond though"
Could it be cause he's just messaging them with no topic?
This has kind of prevented me from messaging new girls. I'll usually only DM girls that I know, but I want to expand
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Who knows what he is saying to them. If he is acting creepy, or isn't attractive and they are, the outcome will be them talking negatively about it.
I don't really act interested in them when I message them, rather on what I am asking them about (common interests or mutual friends).
I believe that through fb and Instagram it's important to build rapport but be indifferent.
Now if the woman starts messaging me first , it's a different story.
I don't really act interested in them when I message them, rather on what I am asking them about (common interests or mutual friends).
I believe that through fb and Instagram it's important to build rapport but be indifferent.
Now if the woman starts messaging me first , it's a different story.
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