Social Media DM's

[Milfhunter95]

Is it just around my area that it's considered weird to DM a girl on social media these days? I never really understood why, just a few years ago it was okay

 

[resilient]

Why do you think it would it be weird to DM her?

 

[Glassguy]

It really depends on what the message is.....not the fact that you send a message.

I would normally only DM someone on FB or Instagram under 2 conditions (obviously if I have interest):

1.) she posts something that I am very knowledgeable about or interested in.

2.) We have several mutual friends that I am close with and would give good feedback about me.

Example:

Woman posts a pic that catches my eye, so I send her "Well hello lol. I just saw the pic of you out boating this weekend. What group of people do you normally boat with?"

A woman added me 2 weeks ago. She was cute, single and we have several mutual friends.

"Hello lol. Curious, how do you know _______?". That led to a lay 8 days later.

If I send a DM, its always a curious question, friendly and non aggressive. Based on how she responds determines if I reply back or not. Most of the time she will turn my question into a question of her own if there is interest on her part.... "Hey! I know so and so....how do you know him/her?"

"hey! Yeah I go out with so and so on their boat on occasion. Do you know them and do you have a boat"?

Rarely a chick doesnt read the message or doesnt respond. Dont sweat it. Its a numbers game.

 

[Milfhunter95]

It really depends on what the message is.....not the fact that you send a message.

I would normally only DM someone on FB or Instagram under 2 conditions (obviously if I have interest):

1.) she posts something that I am very knowledgeable about or interested in.

2.) We have several mutual friends that I am close with and would give good feedback about me.

Example:

Woman posts a pic that catches my eye, so I send her "Well hello lol. I just saw the pic of you out boating this weekend. What group of people do you normally boat with?"

A woman added me 2 weeks ago. She was cute, single and we have several mutual friends.

"Hello lol. Curious, how do you know _______?". That led to a lay 8 days later.

If I send a DM, its always a curious question, friendly and non aggressive. Based on how she responds determines if I reply back or not. Most of the time she will turn my question into a question of her own if there is interest on her part.... "Hey! I know so and so....how do you know him/her?"

"hey! Yeah I go out with so and so on their boat on occasion. Do you know them and do you have a boat"?

Rarely a chick doesnt read the message or doesnt respond. Dont sweat it. Its a numbers game.

I agree with you that's the only way I DM a girl too.

But this isn't really a question about me. I have a buddy who has messaged girls I know, and if I'm ever out with them, they'll say something along the lines like "Ew, so and so DM'd me. I didn't respond though"

Could it be cause he's just messaging them with no topic?

This has kind of prevented me from messaging new girls. I'll usually only DM girls that I know, but I want to expand

 

[Glassguy]

Who knows what he is saying to them. If he is acting creepy, or isn't attractive and they are, the outcome will be them talking negatively about it.

I don't really act interested in them when I message them, rather on what I am asking them about (common interests or mutual friends).

I believe that through fb and Instagram it's important to build rapport but be indifferent.

Now if the woman starts messaging me first , it's a different story.