Milfhunter95
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Is it just around my area that it's considered weird to DM a girl on social media these days? I never really understood why, just a few years ago it was okay
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Glassguy
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It really depends on what the message is.....not the fact that you send a message.
I would normally only DM someone on FB or Instagram under 2 conditions (obviously if I have interest):
1.) she posts something that I am very knowledgeable about or interested in.
2.) We have several mutual friends that I am close with and would give good feedback about me.
Example:
Woman posts a pic that catches my eye, so I send her "Well hello lol. I just saw the pic of you out boating this weekend. What group of people do you normally boat with?"
A woman added me 2 weeks ago. She was cute, single and we have several mutual friends.
"Hello lol. Curious, how do you know _______?". That led to a lay 8 days later.
If I send a DM, its always a curious question, friendly and non aggressive. Based on how she responds determines if I reply back or not. Most of the time she will turn my question into a question of her own if there is interest on her part.... "Hey! I know so and so....how do you know him/her?"
"hey! Yeah I go out with so and so on their boat on occasion. Do you know them and do you have a boat"?
Rarely a chick doesnt read the message or doesnt respond. Dont sweat it. Its a numbers game.
I would normally only DM someone on FB or Instagram under 2 conditions (obviously if I have interest):
1.) she posts something that I am very knowledgeable about or interested in.
2.) We have several mutual friends that I am close with and would give good feedback about me.
Example:
Woman posts a pic that catches my eye, so I send her "Well hello lol. I just saw the pic of you out boating this weekend. What group of people do you normally boat with?"
A woman added me 2 weeks ago. She was cute, single and we have several mutual friends.
"Hello lol. Curious, how do you know _______?". That led to a lay 8 days later.
If I send a DM, its always a curious question, friendly and non aggressive. Based on how she responds determines if I reply back or not. Most of the time she will turn my question into a question of her own if there is interest on her part.... "Hey! I know so and so....how do you know him/her?"
"hey! Yeah I go out with so and so on their boat on occasion. Do you know them and do you have a boat"?
Rarely a chick doesnt read the message or doesnt respond. Dont sweat it. Its a numbers game.
Milfhunter95
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I agree with you that's the only way I DM a girl too.
But this isn't really a question about me. I have a buddy who has messaged girls I know, and if I'm ever out with them, they'll say something along the lines like "Ew, so and so DM'd me. I didn't respond though"
Could it be cause he's just messaging them with no topic?
This has kind of prevented me from messaging new girls. I'll usually only DM girls that I know, but I want to expand
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Who knows what he is saying to them. If he is acting creepy, or isn't attractive and they are, the outcome will be them talking negatively about it.
I don't really act interested in them when I message them, rather on what I am asking them about (common interests or mutual friends).
I believe that through fb and Instagram it's important to build rapport but be indifferent.
Now if the woman starts messaging me first , it's a different story.
I don't really act interested in them when I message them, rather on what I am asking them about (common interests or mutual friends).
I believe that through fb and Instagram it's important to build rapport but be indifferent.
Now if the woman starts messaging me first , it's a different story.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.