"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should I not become a rabbi because I love casual sex?

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I love studying the Torah and the Talmud, but I also love casual sex. The thing is, if I were a rabbi and members of my synagogue knew that I was having casual sex, this could hurt my career as a rabbi. Should I not become a rabbi, or just try to keep my sex life secret? This is a serious question.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Either you’re with it or not. If you want to be a Rabbi then study the laws of the Torah. Study the lives of the Prophets. Keep in mind, once you’re in it (become a Rabbi), you’re in it. One of the worst sins, characteristics, etc is a hypocrite.

Pray for guidance and move forward with your decision.
Thanks for the advice! I will pray about it.
 

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You're 62 years old now. Why become a rabbi now? You like to have sex.
 

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You're 62 years old now. Why become a rabbi now? You like to have sex.
I would like to serve the Jewish community, and love to study the Torah and the Talmud, and love to give public speeches. I think I would make a great rabbi IF I can give up the casual sex. Now that I think about it, maybe I should try to find a quality woman, marry her, AND become a rabbi!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I would like to serve the Jewish community, and love to study the Torah and the Talmud, and love to give public speeches. I think I would make a great rabbi IF I can give up the casual sex. Now that I think about it, maybe I should try to find a quality woman, marry her, AND become a rabbi!
You can serve the Jewish community as a non-rabbi and as a devoted practitioner of Judaism. You have been doing something else with your life for 62 years. You have worked some jobs for the last 40-45 years.
 

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I love studying the Torah and the Talmud, but I also love casual sex. The thing is, if I were a rabbi and members of my synagogue knew that I was having casual sex, this could hurt my career as a rabbi. Should I not become a rabbi, or just try to keep my sex life secret? This is a serious question.
So you don't think your past would come up? Are you naive?

You would get buried once they found out, and they will find out.
 

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It's been my experience that Jewish chicks are typically very chesty. Here is Ben Shapiro's chesty sister:

ben shapiro's sister.jpeg
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I love studying the Torah and the Talmud, but I also love casual sex. The thing is, if I were a rabbi and members of my synagogue knew that I was having casual sex, this could hurt my career as a rabbi. Should I not become a rabbi, or just try to keep my sex life secret? This is a serious question.
Just become a reform or reconstructionist Rabbi. The Jew doctors tell me those sects are barely Jewish. You can also pray to Jesus and ask his opinion. After all, he was a Jew too.
 

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The Talmud allows for all kinds of naughtiness OP. Read it sometime :)

You can go to a town where no one knows you, if that helps.
 

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Just become a reform or reconstructionist Rabbi. The Jew doctors tell me those sects are barely Jewish. You can also pray to Jesus and ask his opinion. After all, he was a Jew too.
It isn't kosher for a Jew to pray to Jesus. Also, why would I? I don't believe he was: God, the Messiah, or the son of God.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Coming to SS to get on advice on becoming a rabbi or not. We are a full service community.
 

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It isn't kosher for a Jew to pray to Jesus. Also, why would I? I don't believe he was: God, the Messiah, or the son of God.
Depends on the sect. The reform and reconstructionists are barely Jewish I am told.. They are more "Jew-ish". Then you have the Messianic Jews who believe in JC.

Just depends on what your level and discipline for your religion. Only you can decide that. However, if you are not going to stick to the rules of the Torah and laws of Moses, then look at the less strict versions of your religion.

P.S. - I've dated a lot of Jewish tadpoles; this is how I know a little bit about them.
 

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Secrets have a nasty way of turning into big problems, especially when you're a spiritual leader. You have to abide by what you're going to preach.
 

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She should fix the nose; but prob. gives good head. I believe it's part of a Jewish woman's offerings.. Nice big t!ts and good head. What could go wrong? Just make sure you make a sh!t ton of $$$$.
She did get the nose redone. She's also an aspiring opera singer: :eek: :eek: :eek:

 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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