mrgoodstuff
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Do you tell her she's wasting g your time and using you for Attention or do you just cut her time without saying anything?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She's using you for attention - do you?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I don't see the point in telling her she's wasting your time. That's shame/guilt that makes you look ego-bruised as a man. It makes it easier for her to rationalize passing you up.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
wifehunter
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ask to meet her friends!
magevis
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What if she agrees to this, you actually meet up, but she won't let you kiss her despite your best efforts?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If you can’t get at least a kiss from a girl, she’s nowhere near being sexually interested in you…
mrgoodstuff
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She flakes and alter plans unless it's essentially her plan. And she will still flake to try to act higher value. I'mma about to replace . Not going to put up with unreliable folk.
mrgoodstuff
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Some girls won't kiss but will give head or puzzy .
mrgoodstuff
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They think it's disgusting . Germs etc . Lol.
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SO bizarre
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mrgoodstuff
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Some prostitute think like this, think kissing is affectionate and cause feelings. And some regular life people compartamentalize the sex acts so feeling cannot occur.
sazc
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IMO any woman that does this has intimacy issues. Red Flag. Get your rocks off but realize she is very unstable
speed dawg
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Thanks Captain Obvious.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So hit it once and she can us you up for your attention?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
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Like how? "I know your not just using me for attention?"
mrgoodstuff
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She replies "what the hell that mean? I like having you around"
Everyone uses everyone, u just need to admit it to be free from the shackles that limits you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So let her waste your time for no to minimal sex?
The decision is ultimately urs.
Do you make it a habit to give without any returns?
Even monks offering prayers requests "donations"...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.