mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Do you tell her she's wasting g your time and using you for Attention or do you just cut her time without saying anything?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She's using you for attention - do you?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
resilient
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I don't see the point in telling her she's wasting your time. That's shame/guilt that makes you look ego-bruised as a man. It makes it easier for her to rationalize passing you up.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
wifehunter
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ask to meet her friends!
magevis
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What if she agrees to this, you actually meet up, but she won't let you kiss her despite your best efforts?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If you can’t get at least a kiss from a girl, she’s nowhere near being sexually interested in you…
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
She flakes and alter plans unless it's essentially her plan. And she will still flake to try to act higher value. I'mma about to replace . Not going to put up with unreliable folk.
mrgoodstuff
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Some girls won't kiss but will give head or puzzy .
mrgoodstuff
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They think it's disgusting . Germs etc . Lol.
sazc
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SO bizarre
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
mrgoodstuff
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Some prostitute think like this, think kissing is affectionate and cause feelings. And some regular life people compartamentalize the sex acts so feeling cannot occur.
sazc
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IMO any woman that does this has intimacy issues. Red Flag. Get your rocks off but realize she is very unstable
speed dawg
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Thanks Captain Obvious.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So hit it once and she can us you up for your attention?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Like how? "I know your not just using me for attention?"
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
She replies "what the hell that mean? I like having you around"
Everyone uses everyone, u just need to admit it to be free from the shackles that limits you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So let her waste your time for no to minimal sex?
The decision is ultimately urs.
Do you make it a habit to give without any returns?
Even monks offering prayers requests "donations"...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.