mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Do you tell her she's wasting g your time and using you for Attention or do you just cut her time without saying anything?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She's using you for attention - do you?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
resilient
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I don't see the point in telling her she's wasting your time. That's shame/guilt that makes you look ego-bruised as a man. It makes it easier for her to rationalize passing you up.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
ask to meet her friends!
magevis
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What if she agrees to this, you actually meet up, but she won't let you kiss her despite your best efforts?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If you can’t get at least a kiss from a girl, she’s nowhere near being sexually interested in you…
mrgoodstuff
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She flakes and alter plans unless it's essentially her plan. And she will still flake to try to act higher value. I'mma about to replace . Not going to put up with unreliable folk.
mrgoodstuff
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Some girls won't kiss but will give head or puzzy .
mrgoodstuff
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They think it's disgusting . Germs etc . Lol.
sazc
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SO bizarre
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
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Some prostitute think like this, think kissing is affectionate and cause feelings. And some regular life people compartamentalize the sex acts so feeling cannot occur.
sazc
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IMO any woman that does this has intimacy issues. Red Flag. Get your rocks off but realize she is very unstable
speed dawg
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Thanks Captain Obvious.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So hit it once and she can us you up for your attention?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mrgoodstuff
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Like how? "I know your not just using me for attention?"
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
She replies "what the hell that mean? I like having you around"
Everyone uses everyone, u just need to admit it to be free from the shackles that limits you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So let her waste your time for no to minimal sex?
The decision is ultimately urs.
Do you make it a habit to give without any returns?
Even monks offering prayers requests "donations"...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.