mrgoodstuff
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Do you tell her she's wasting g your time and using you for Attention or do you just cut her time without saying anything?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She's using you for attention - do you?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I don't see the point in telling her she's wasting your time. That's shame/guilt that makes you look ego-bruised as a man. It makes it easier for her to rationalize passing you up.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
Lead and let her follow. If she doesn't... cut time with her to pursue better or more options is a wiser strategy... or least... just stay busy. Have enough going on in your life that you don't notice her dropping off in interest/attention.
Stay balanced, emotions in check, always keep the focus on you. Invest less. The last lesson is what I've learned the most (and hardest) this summer and trying my best to internalize. Self-respect in other words...
Just gotta keep that prize mentality. You're worth it and something better is coming your way. Stay positive.
wifehunter
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ask to meet her friends!
magevis
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What if she agrees to this, you actually meet up, but she won't let you kiss her despite your best efforts?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If you can’t get at least a kiss from a girl, she’s nowhere near being sexually interested in you…
mrgoodstuff
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She flakes and alter plans unless it's essentially her plan. And she will still flake to try to act higher value. I'mma about to replace . Not going to put up with unreliable folk.
mrgoodstuff
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Some girls won't kiss but will give head or puzzy .
mrgoodstuff
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They think it's disgusting . Germs etc . Lol.
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SO bizarre
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
mrgoodstuff
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Some prostitute think like this, think kissing is affectionate and cause feelings. And some regular life people compartamentalize the sex acts so feeling cannot occur.
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IMO any woman that does this has intimacy issues. Red Flag. Get your rocks off but realize she is very unstable
speed dawg
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Thanks Captain Obvious.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So hit it once and she can us you up for your attention?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
mrgoodstuff
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Like how? "I know your not just using me for attention?"
mrgoodstuff
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She replies "what the hell that mean? I like having you around"
Everyone uses everyone, u just need to admit it to be free from the shackles that limits you.
mrgoodstuff
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So let her waste your time for no to minimal sex?
The decision is ultimately urs.
Do you make it a habit to give without any returns?
Even monks offering prayers requests "donations"...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.