Bingo.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She wished me happy birthday after 6 months of no contact
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If you listened to Corey Wayne more you would know he says "When a woman contacts you then she is creating an opportunity for a date. Ask her when she is available. Hang out, have fun, hook up."
El Payaso
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At this point, you're just trolling with beta advice like this.
You never got a girl back?
I've never had one forth.
What does he have to lose by texting her? Jesus he could have found out 6 hours ago if we weren't coddling his inner wuss here in droves.
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His dignity, self respect and sanity.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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OP, delete the text and ignore.
At this point, you should even have her blocked. You are nothing but a source of validation and ego boost to her. At best, a backup option.
Read that over and over and let it sink in.
At this point, you should even have her blocked. You are nothing but a source of validation and ego boost to her. At best, a backup option.
Read that over and over and let it sink in.
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We're you fvcking this chick or not?
If you were fvcking I would respond back with "Thanks friend ". Then be quiet. Don't respond to anything unless she asks to hang out.
If you weren't fvcking her, she obviously had you on a string and I wouldn't advise doing anything besides sending "I don't recognize the number. Who is this?"
That's long gone already. Hence, I say he has nothing to lose. This isn't dump echo 6 months later. This is her saying "I remember you and now that Jeff slept with my best friend, I'm ready".
wifehunter
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6 months later...
Who are you???
Who are you???
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
devilkingx2
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never ever try and go back to a woman, it never works and will only sacrifice your pride and embarass you.
if you had any chance of banging her, then you certainly have the game to bang a new woman, so do that instead
if you had any chance of banging her, then you certainly have the game to bang a new woman, so do that instead
devilkingx2
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if she were a man she'd be doing it to see if she can still fvck you.
since she's a woman she's doing it to feed your attention to her ego.
you know how the praying mantis females murder the males when they're done mating? ditto with black widow spiders?
yeah... human females are only marginally more kind when they're done with you
Not talking to her for months and then her wishing me happy birthday makes me an ego boost for her?
Thats an interesting theory. But a happy birthday several months later doesnt quite rank up to being "marginally more kind"
devilkingx2
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this is the part where you rationalize it as being your chance.
next comes the part where you rush head first into an obvious trap
after that comes crushing disappointment
does that sound like fun?
if not, veer off the path right now.
though tbh what's most likely going to happen is that if you respond, whatever you respond with will lead to a short conversation that goes nowhere or be ignored, which is relatively minor but still unpleasant
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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heheh I Just had a POFer from 2 years ago wish me a merry xmas on xmas day. I responded, wished him well. He asked what I was up to, i told him and asked what he was up to. He told me. I sadi that sounded great.
The end
He was fishing. he was hoping I would indicate some level of interest, offer to get together, get coffee.
It's nice that she went out of her way to wish you a happy birthday. She's a nice person. That's what the text means. That she is a person who happened to remember your birthday and decided to be nice and wish you a HB.
If you want to see if she's interested, respond and ask her to chill.
If you dont care about it all then dont respond, or respond and say 'thanks' and leave it alone
she said exactly what she said. "Happy Birthday" There could be a thousand different motivations for saying this, a thousand. For the love of gawd, STOP over analyzing it. chicks do that. dont be a chick.
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He was fishing. he was hoping I would indicate some level of interest, offer to get together, get coffee.
It's nice that she went out of her way to wish you a happy birthday. She's a nice person. That's what the text means. That she is a person who happened to remember your birthday and decided to be nice and wish you a HB.
If you want to see if she's interested, respond and ask her to chill.
If you dont care about it all then dont respond, or respond and say 'thanks' and leave it alone
she said exactly what she said. "Happy Birthday" There could be a thousand different motivations for saying this, a thousand. For the love of gawd, STOP over analyzing it. chicks do that. dont be a chick.
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No. Responding to her makes you an ego boost to her.
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I'm convinced you are actually "Coach" Corey Wayne yourself, or his boyfriend. Go away Corey/Corey's BFF - we're not buying $90 e-books today.
"Hang out, have fun, hook up."
Great advice, coach. Couldn't have figured that one out on my own. Here's $1,000.
#CoreyWayneSucks
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If we give you enough rope...
wifehunter
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Can't we all, just get along?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.