Bingo.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She wished me happy birthday after 6 months of no contact
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If you listened to Corey Wayne more you would know he says "When a woman contacts you then she is creating an opportunity for a date. Ask her when she is available. Hang out, have fun, hook up."
El Payaso
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At this point, you're just trolling with beta advice like this.
You never got a girl back?
I've never had one forth.
What does he have to lose by texting her? Jesus he could have found out 6 hours ago if we weren't coddling his inner wuss here in droves.
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His dignity, self respect and sanity.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
El Payaso
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OP, delete the text and ignore.
At this point, you should even have her blocked. You are nothing but a source of validation and ego boost to her. At best, a backup option.
Read that over and over and let it sink in.
At this point, you should even have her blocked. You are nothing but a source of validation and ego boost to her. At best, a backup option.
Read that over and over and let it sink in.
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We're you fvcking this chick or not?
If you were fvcking I would respond back with "Thanks friend ". Then be quiet. Don't respond to anything unless she asks to hang out.
If you weren't fvcking her, she obviously had you on a string and I wouldn't advise doing anything besides sending "I don't recognize the number. Who is this?"
That's long gone already. Hence, I say he has nothing to lose. This isn't dump echo 6 months later. This is her saying "I remember you and now that Jeff slept with my best friend, I'm ready".
wifehunter
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6 months later...
Who are you???
Who are you???
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
devilkingx2
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never ever try and go back to a woman, it never works and will only sacrifice your pride and embarass you.
if you had any chance of banging her, then you certainly have the game to bang a new woman, so do that instead
if you had any chance of banging her, then you certainly have the game to bang a new woman, so do that instead
devilkingx2
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if she were a man she'd be doing it to see if she can still fvck you.
since she's a woman she's doing it to feed your attention to her ego.
you know how the praying mantis females murder the males when they're done mating? ditto with black widow spiders?
yeah... human females are only marginally more kind when they're done with you
Not talking to her for months and then her wishing me happy birthday makes me an ego boost for her?
Thats an interesting theory. But a happy birthday several months later doesnt quite rank up to being "marginally more kind"
devilkingx2
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this is the part where you rationalize it as being your chance.
next comes the part where you rush head first into an obvious trap
after that comes crushing disappointment
does that sound like fun?
if not, veer off the path right now.
though tbh what's most likely going to happen is that if you respond, whatever you respond with will lead to a short conversation that goes nowhere or be ignored, which is relatively minor but still unpleasant
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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heheh I Just had a POFer from 2 years ago wish me a merry xmas on xmas day. I responded, wished him well. He asked what I was up to, i told him and asked what he was up to. He told me. I sadi that sounded great.
The end
He was fishing. he was hoping I would indicate some level of interest, offer to get together, get coffee.
It's nice that she went out of her way to wish you a happy birthday. She's a nice person. That's what the text means. That she is a person who happened to remember your birthday and decided to be nice and wish you a HB.
If you want to see if she's interested, respond and ask her to chill.
If you dont care about it all then dont respond, or respond and say 'thanks' and leave it alone
she said exactly what she said. "Happy Birthday" There could be a thousand different motivations for saying this, a thousand. For the love of gawd, STOP over analyzing it. chicks do that. dont be a chick.
The end
He was fishing. he was hoping I would indicate some level of interest, offer to get together, get coffee.
It's nice that she went out of her way to wish you a happy birthday. She's a nice person. That's what the text means. That she is a person who happened to remember your birthday and decided to be nice and wish you a HB.
If you want to see if she's interested, respond and ask her to chill.
If you dont care about it all then dont respond, or respond and say 'thanks' and leave it alone
she said exactly what she said. "Happy Birthday" There could be a thousand different motivations for saying this, a thousand. For the love of gawd, STOP over analyzing it. chicks do that. dont be a chick.
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No. Responding to her makes you an ego boost to her.
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I'm convinced you are actually "Coach" Corey Wayne yourself, or his boyfriend. Go away Corey/Corey's BFF - we're not buying $90 e-books today.
"Hang out, have fun, hook up."
Great advice, coach. Couldn't have figured that one out on my own. Here's $1,000.
#CoreyWayneSucks
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If we give you enough rope...
wifehunter
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Can't we all, just get along?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.