"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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She wants me to date her sis

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you, she just acted like it would suprise her. Today she showed me 100s of pics of her older sis and I just mhm everytime. I said show me your pics but she didnt want to. I always ask her to make me a tea or smth and she always does it and the other guys say she wouldnt even stand up for me.
I always see her one time a week.
So i dont really know. What would you guys advice me to do? I need to play with her somehow but idk how.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Its like a slap in the face when you show interest in a girl and she´s like "I only like you as a friend, but you should totally date my older, less attractive, single mom sister" or some variant of that, basically trying to set you up with someone who is lower SMV than you or her.
 

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Its like a slap in the face when you show interest in a girl and she´s like "I only like you as a friend, but you should totally date my older, less attractive, single mom sister" or some variant of that, basically trying to set you up with someone who is lower SMV than you or her.
so what should I do now? I hate my position
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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self_is_an_illusion

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you, she just acted like it would suprise her. Today she showed me 100s of pics of her older sis and I just mhm everytime. I said show me your pics but she didnt want to. I always ask her to make me a tea or smth and she always does it and the other guys say she wouldnt even stand up for me.
I always see her one time a week.
So i dont really know. What would you guys advice me to do? I need to play with her somehow but idk how.
Enforce some boundaries before you get into a scandal and ruin your reputation in the organization. Put you sexual energy into bars, clubs, tinder, etc
 

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you ...
Had you actually asked for her digits to get together? It's pretty obvious that she doesn't care for you, so you made yourself be a weenie by saying that.

Is her sister fat? A harridan? A bagger? If she passes the "she looks like she might be decent" test, then tell her to pass on your phone number to her sis, and let her sis contact you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office...
This situation is a problem just waiting to happen. Abort the "mission!"
 

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A report by the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) suggests that anywhere from 25% to 85% of women report having experienced sexual harassment in the workplace. The wide range is due to differences in how surveys ask about the issue and how respondents interpret the questions.

 

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The solution is almost always...FIND NEW GIRLS. If you had others you wouldn't be so worried about this deal.
Find girls with higher interest levels. They won't play games.
Agreed, but really, this girl isn't even playing games. She seems pretty upfront about not being interested in him, she just thinks maybe her sister might like him. If the OP doesn't find the sister appealing, I would just move on. I wouldn't necessarily go no contact, but I would turn the interactions way, way down.
 

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so what should I do now? I hate my position
Go out and meet women outside of your job or at least outside of your office.
Many women don't like the idea of getting intimate with their coworkers or coworkers they just met.

Your story also smells like Oneitis. You need to find different ways to meet women besides where you work.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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