"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She wants me to date her sis

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you, she just acted like it would suprise her. Today she showed me 100s of pics of her older sis and I just mhm everytime. I said show me your pics but she didnt want to. I always ask her to make me a tea or smth and she always does it and the other guys say she wouldnt even stand up for me.
I always see her one time a week.
So i dont really know. What would you guys advice me to do? I need to play with her somehow but idk how.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Its like a slap in the face when you show interest in a girl and she´s like "I only like you as a friend, but you should totally date my older, less attractive, single mom sister" or some variant of that, basically trying to set you up with someone who is lower SMV than you or her.
 

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Its like a slap in the face when you show interest in a girl and she´s like "I only like you as a friend, but you should totally date my older, less attractive, single mom sister" or some variant of that, basically trying to set you up with someone who is lower SMV than you or her.
so what should I do now? I hate my position
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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self_is_an_illusion

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you, she just acted like it would suprise her. Today she showed me 100s of pics of her older sis and I just mhm everytime. I said show me your pics but she didnt want to. I always ask her to make me a tea or smth and she always does it and the other guys say she wouldnt even stand up for me.
I always see her one time a week.
So i dont really know. What would you guys advice me to do? I need to play with her somehow but idk how.
Enforce some boundaries before you get into a scandal and ruin your reputation in the organization. Put you sexual energy into bars, clubs, tinder, etc
 

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you ...
Had you actually asked for her digits to get together? It's pretty obvious that she doesn't care for you, so you made yourself be a weenie by saying that.

Is her sister fat? A harridan? A bagger? If she passes the "she looks like she might be decent" test, then tell her to pass on your phone number to her sis, and let her sis contact you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office...
This situation is a problem just waiting to happen. Abort the "mission!"
 

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A report by the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) suggests that anywhere from 25% to 85% of women report having experienced sexual harassment in the workplace. The wide range is due to differences in how surveys ask about the issue and how respondents interpret the questions.

 

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The solution is almost always...FIND NEW GIRLS. If you had others you wouldn't be so worried about this deal.
Find girls with higher interest levels. They won't play games.
Agreed, but really, this girl isn't even playing games. She seems pretty upfront about not being interested in him, she just thinks maybe her sister might like him. If the OP doesn't find the sister appealing, I would just move on. I wouldn't necessarily go no contact, but I would turn the interactions way, way down.
 

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so what should I do now? I hate my position
Go out and meet women outside of your job or at least outside of your office.
Many women don't like the idea of getting intimate with their coworkers or coworkers they just met.

Your story also smells like Oneitis. You need to find different ways to meet women besides where you work.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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