"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She wants me to date her sis

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you, she just acted like it would suprise her. Today she showed me 100s of pics of her older sis and I just mhm everytime. I said show me your pics but she didnt want to. I always ask her to make me a tea or smth and she always does it and the other guys say she wouldnt even stand up for me.
I always see her one time a week.
So i dont really know. What would you guys advice me to do? I need to play with her somehow but idk how.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Its like a slap in the face when you show interest in a girl and she´s like "I only like you as a friend, but you should totally date my older, less attractive, single mom sister" or some variant of that, basically trying to set you up with someone who is lower SMV than you or her.
 

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Its like a slap in the face when you show interest in a girl and she´s like "I only like you as a friend, but you should totally date my older, less attractive, single mom sister" or some variant of that, basically trying to set you up with someone who is lower SMV than you or her.
so what should I do now? I hate my position
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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self_is_an_illusion

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you, she just acted like it would suprise her. Today she showed me 100s of pics of her older sis and I just mhm everytime. I said show me your pics but she didnt want to. I always ask her to make me a tea or smth and she always does it and the other guys say she wouldnt even stand up for me.
I always see her one time a week.
So i dont really know. What would you guys advice me to do? I need to play with her somehow but idk how.
Enforce some boundaries before you get into a scandal and ruin your reputation in the organization. Put you sexual energy into bars, clubs, tinder, etc
 

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office. We had a couple of good talks and i catched her checking herself in the mirror many times after I talked with her. Also she said I look like the ex of her sis. Once she texted me smth like get my sister and I texted I prefer you ...
Had you actually asked for her digits to get together? It's pretty obvious that she doesn't care for you, so you made yourself be a weenie by saying that.

Is her sister fat? A harridan? A bagger? If she passes the "she looks like she might be decent" test, then tell her to pass on your phone number to her sis, and let her sis contact you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hey guys I‘ll keep it short maybe you can help me. Im working in a good position as a coach and there is one trainee working in the office...
This situation is a problem just waiting to happen. Abort the "mission!"
 

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A report by the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) suggests that anywhere from 25% to 85% of women report having experienced sexual harassment in the workplace. The wide range is due to differences in how surveys ask about the issue and how respondents interpret the questions.

 

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The solution is almost always...FIND NEW GIRLS. If you had others you wouldn't be so worried about this deal.
Find girls with higher interest levels. They won't play games.
Agreed, but really, this girl isn't even playing games. She seems pretty upfront about not being interested in him, she just thinks maybe her sister might like him. If the OP doesn't find the sister appealing, I would just move on. I wouldn't necessarily go no contact, but I would turn the interactions way, way down.
 

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so what should I do now? I hate my position
Go out and meet women outside of your job or at least outside of your office.
Many women don't like the idea of getting intimate with their coworkers or coworkers they just met.

Your story also smells like Oneitis. You need to find different ways to meet women besides where you work.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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