"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She tells you shes a challenge...

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Start crying and then throw things at her. :whistle:

Why ask something like that?
 

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i think if she's so narcissistic/egotistical that she would come out and just say this to someone, even jokingly, she's probably not worth your time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She may be cool. You may have expressed too high a level of interest before she was feeling enough attraction to you.

It is just a test. She says "she is challenge" translates to:

"If you are an AFC don't bother because you are just going to bug me all the time until I have to break your heart".

PeterCrouch said:
How do you respond?
In a humorous tone:

"Are you really that much of a pain in the ass to get to know better (pause but don't let her answer) cause if you are - I am a busy guy and this isn't going to work out." (pause but don't let her answer)

inquisitive and sort of confused/serious:

"or are you feeling that you really want us to get to know each other but you are a little nervous to just let this happen?"
 

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CompleteControl said:
She may be cool. You may have expressed too high a level of interest before she was feeling enough attraction to you.

It is just a test. She says "she is challenge" translates to:

"If you are an AFC don't bother because you are just going to bug me all the time until I have to break your heart".



In a humorous tone:

"Are you really that much of a pain in the ass to get to know better (pause but don't let her answer) cause if you are - I am a busy guy and this isn't going to work out." (pause but don't let her answer)

inquisitive and sort of confused/serious:

"or are you feeling that you really want us to get to know each other but you are a little nervous to just let this happen?"
:yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC. :rolleyes:

She's not thinking in her head if your a ****ing AFC or DJ or not.. stop getting brain-washed by this place.. thinking women have read all this. None have. Checking if you have confidence.. yeah she may do THAT.
 

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"That's what you all say. Most times women say this when they are just difficult to get along with. Are you one of those women?"
 

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Bvbidd said:
:yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC. :rolleyes:

She's not thinking in her head if your a ****ing AFC or DJ or not.
Of course she isn't literally checking to see if you are an AFC or DJ. This was shorthand. (see below for explanation)

. stop getting brain-washed by this place..thinking women have read all this. None have.
I am not brainwashed - I haven't even read 1% of the stuff on this site. I have actual real life experience with real women.

Checking if you have confidence.. yeah she may do THAT.
Beautiful young women constantly have men hitting on them and asking them out. Many men (I called them AFC for short) call them constantly, buy them flowers, drinks, dinner and are always available to and desperately want to spend time with them. These men fail to realize that this behavior has caused her to lose any attraction that there may have been in the first place. The girl is then left in the unenviable position of having to hurt them by telling them she is not interested or blowing them off until they get the hint. She wants to avoid this because it makes her feel bad. With many highly desirable women this has happened over and over and over and she hates it..

Yes, she is checking to see if you have confidence. She is checking to make sure that you are a confident man, that has a life and who she can have a good time with; and not a man who is going to be a needy puppy dog that she has to hurt later.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Come ON!!!!!

"Oh, your going to have to prove it"

continue doing whatever it was you were doing when she interrupted you.
 

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flippinfreak said:
"Oh, your going to have to prove it"

continue doing whatever it was you were doing when she interrupted you.

...she then walks away to prove she's a challenge, leaving you to do whatever it is you're doing.
 

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Jackman said:
...she then walks away to prove she's a challenge, leaving you to do whatever it is you're doing.
Yes, she does go off top prove how much of a challenge she is to me. While I stay right where I am, not chasing her and putting her up on a pedestal.

10, 15 minutes later, I hit her back and sit down with all of her friends and tease her while warming up her friends with a few ice breakers...

She looks at me with a challenge, and I accept...

Yeah, she's a challenge alright, and I'm not going to back down...

No need to bust down a girls confidence straight up... I don't play with little girls Jackman
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jackman said:
Check your rating....

I don't think you have any actual experience.
LOL, doesn't do anything if you have your reputation disabled;)
 

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Thanks for paying much attention to the rating rules and teaching me. I fixed it. Do you have negative points now? :D
 

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Jackman said:
Thanks for paying much attention to the rating rules and teaching me. I fixed it. Do you have negative points now? :D
Nah, "you must spread some reputation around before" anything happens... You can't give it to the same post twice neither...

Glad to see your only like person number four who has actually done something about that quote...

Check your nows;)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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