PeterCrouch
Senior Don Juan
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How do you respond?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I tell her to change the oil in my car.PeterCrouch said:How do you respond?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
In a humorous tone:PeterCrouch said:How do you respond?
:yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC.CompleteControl said:She may be cool. You may have expressed too high a level of interest before she was feeling enough attraction to you.
It is just a test. She says "she is challenge" translates to:
"If you are an AFC don't bother because you are just going to bug me all the time until I have to break your heart".
In a humorous tone:
"Are you really that much of a pain in the ass to get to know better (pause but don't let her answer) cause if you are - I am a busy guy and this isn't going to work out." (pause but don't let her answer)
inquisitive and sort of confused/serious:
"or are you feeling that you really want us to get to know each other but you are a little nervous to just let this happen?"
Of course she isn't literally checking to see if you are an AFC or DJ. This was shorthand. (see below for explanation)Bvbidd said::yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC.
She's not thinking in her head if your a ****ing AFC or DJ or not.
I am not brainwashed - I haven't even read 1% of the stuff on this site. I have actual real life experience with real women.. stop getting brain-washed by this place..thinking women have read all this. None have.
Beautiful young women constantly have men hitting on them and asking them out. Many men (I called them AFC for short) call them constantly, buy them flowers, drinks, dinner and are always available to and desperately want to spend time with them. These men fail to realize that this behavior has caused her to lose any attraction that there may have been in the first place. The girl is then left in the unenviable position of having to hurt them by telling them she is not interested or blowing them off until they get the hint. She wants to avoid this because it makes her feel bad. With many highly desirable women this has happened over and over and over and she hates it..Checking if you have confidence.. yeah she may do THAT.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Great answer! :cheer:Jackman said:You respond with, " So am I."
flippinfreak said:"Oh, your going to have to prove it"
continue doing whatever it was you were doing when she interrupted you.
Like it.Jackman said:You respond with, " So am I."
Yes, she does go off top prove how much of a challenge she is to me. While I stay right where I am, not chasing her and putting her up on a pedestal.Jackman said:...she then walks away to prove she's a challenge, leaving you to do whatever it is you're doing.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Check your rating....Sosuave AFCs are too scared to give me bad rep points
LOL, doesn't do anything if you have your reputation disabledJackman said:Check your rating....
I don't think you have any actual experience.
Nah, "you must spread some reputation around before" anything happens... You can't give it to the same post twice neither...Jackman said:Thanks for paying much attention to the rating rules and teaching me. I fixed it. Do you have negative points now?![]()
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.