PeterCrouch
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How do you respond?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I tell her to change the oil in my car.PeterCrouch said:How do you respond?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
In a humorous tone:PeterCrouch said:How do you respond?
:yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC.CompleteControl said:She may be cool. You may have expressed too high a level of interest before she was feeling enough attraction to you.
It is just a test. She says "she is challenge" translates to:
"If you are an AFC don't bother because you are just going to bug me all the time until I have to break your heart".
In a humorous tone:
"Are you really that much of a pain in the ass to get to know better (pause but don't let her answer) cause if you are - I am a busy guy and this isn't going to work out." (pause but don't let her answer)
inquisitive and sort of confused/serious:
"or are you feeling that you really want us to get to know each other but you are a little nervous to just let this happen?"
Of course she isn't literally checking to see if you are an AFC or DJ. This was shorthand. (see below for explanation)Bvbidd said::yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC.
She's not thinking in her head if your a ****ing AFC or DJ or not.
I am not brainwashed - I haven't even read 1% of the stuff on this site. I have actual real life experience with real women.. stop getting brain-washed by this place..thinking women have read all this. None have.
Beautiful young women constantly have men hitting on them and asking them out. Many men (I called them AFC for short) call them constantly, buy them flowers, drinks, dinner and are always available to and desperately want to spend time with them. These men fail to realize that this behavior has caused her to lose any attraction that there may have been in the first place. The girl is then left in the unenviable position of having to hurt them by telling them she is not interested or blowing them off until they get the hint. She wants to avoid this because it makes her feel bad. With many highly desirable women this has happened over and over and over and she hates it..Checking if you have confidence.. yeah she may do THAT.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Great answer! :cheer:Jackman said:You respond with, " So am I."
flippinfreak said:"Oh, your going to have to prove it"
continue doing whatever it was you were doing when she interrupted you.
Like it.Jackman said:You respond with, " So am I."
Yes, she does go off top prove how much of a challenge she is to me. While I stay right where I am, not chasing her and putting her up on a pedestal.Jackman said:...she then walks away to prove she's a challenge, leaving you to do whatever it is you're doing.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Check your rating....Sosuave AFCs are too scared to give me bad rep points
LOL, doesn't do anything if you have your reputation disabledJackman said:Check your rating....
I don't think you have any actual experience.
Nah, "you must spread some reputation around before" anything happens... You can't give it to the same post twice neither...Jackman said:Thanks for paying much attention to the rating rules and teaching me. I fixed it. Do you have negative points now?![]()
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.