"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She tells you shes a challenge...

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Start crying and then throw things at her. :whistle:

Why ask something like that?
 

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i think if she's so narcissistic/egotistical that she would come out and just say this to someone, even jokingly, she's probably not worth your time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She may be cool. You may have expressed too high a level of interest before she was feeling enough attraction to you.

It is just a test. She says "she is challenge" translates to:

"If you are an AFC don't bother because you are just going to bug me all the time until I have to break your heart".

PeterCrouch said:
How do you respond?
In a humorous tone:

"Are you really that much of a pain in the ass to get to know better (pause but don't let her answer) cause if you are - I am a busy guy and this isn't going to work out." (pause but don't let her answer)

inquisitive and sort of confused/serious:

"or are you feeling that you really want us to get to know each other but you are a little nervous to just let this happen?"
 

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CompleteControl said:
She may be cool. You may have expressed too high a level of interest before she was feeling enough attraction to you.

It is just a test. She says "she is challenge" translates to:

"If you are an AFC don't bother because you are just going to bug me all the time until I have to break your heart".



In a humorous tone:

"Are you really that much of a pain in the ass to get to know better (pause but don't let her answer) cause if you are - I am a busy guy and this isn't going to work out." (pause but don't let her answer)

inquisitive and sort of confused/serious:

"or are you feeling that you really want us to get to know each other but you are a little nervous to just let this happen?"
:yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC. :rolleyes:

She's not thinking in her head if your a ****ing AFC or DJ or not.. stop getting brain-washed by this place.. thinking women have read all this. None have. Checking if you have confidence.. yeah she may do THAT.
 

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"That's what you all say. Most times women say this when they are just difficult to get along with. Are you one of those women?"
 

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Bvbidd said:
:yawn: Yeah.. I'm sure she's just checking if your an AFC. :rolleyes:

She's not thinking in her head if your a ****ing AFC or DJ or not.
Of course she isn't literally checking to see if you are an AFC or DJ. This was shorthand. (see below for explanation)

. stop getting brain-washed by this place..thinking women have read all this. None have.
I am not brainwashed - I haven't even read 1% of the stuff on this site. I have actual real life experience with real women.

Checking if you have confidence.. yeah she may do THAT.
Beautiful young women constantly have men hitting on them and asking them out. Many men (I called them AFC for short) call them constantly, buy them flowers, drinks, dinner and are always available to and desperately want to spend time with them. These men fail to realize that this behavior has caused her to lose any attraction that there may have been in the first place. The girl is then left in the unenviable position of having to hurt them by telling them she is not interested or blowing them off until they get the hint. She wants to avoid this because it makes her feel bad. With many highly desirable women this has happened over and over and over and she hates it..

Yes, she is checking to see if you have confidence. She is checking to make sure that you are a confident man, that has a life and who she can have a good time with; and not a man who is going to be a needy puppy dog that she has to hurt later.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Come ON!!!!!

"Oh, your going to have to prove it"

continue doing whatever it was you were doing when she interrupted you.
 

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flippinfreak said:
"Oh, your going to have to prove it"

continue doing whatever it was you were doing when she interrupted you.

...she then walks away to prove she's a challenge, leaving you to do whatever it is you're doing.
 

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Jackman said:
...she then walks away to prove she's a challenge, leaving you to do whatever it is you're doing.
Yes, she does go off top prove how much of a challenge she is to me. While I stay right where I am, not chasing her and putting her up on a pedestal.

10, 15 minutes later, I hit her back and sit down with all of her friends and tease her while warming up her friends with a few ice breakers...

She looks at me with a challenge, and I accept...

Yeah, she's a challenge alright, and I'm not going to back down...

No need to bust down a girls confidence straight up... I don't play with little girls Jackman
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jackman said:
Check your rating....

I don't think you have any actual experience.
LOL, doesn't do anything if you have your reputation disabled;)
 

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Thanks for paying much attention to the rating rules and teaching me. I fixed it. Do you have negative points now? :D
 

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Jackman said:
Thanks for paying much attention to the rating rules and teaching me. I fixed it. Do you have negative points now? :D
Nah, "you must spread some reputation around before" anything happens... You can't give it to the same post twice neither...

Glad to see your only like person number four who has actually done something about that quote...

Check your nows;)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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