"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She said I have to earn her kiss?

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i would personally smiled and not take this seriously and try to escalate again later on this is a ****ing **** test to see how you handle it, if you get angry or pissed of she will see you weak.

If you escalate again and she gives you that bs you have to earn it just smile end the date later on and leave.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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I would run from any female who gives you the “have to earn it” line.

I was on a date once. We were fooling around, and I asked for a BJ. She said, “You haven’t earned that yet.”

There was no second date. She didn’t “earn” a call or text back.

There’s a BIG difference between “I’m not ready to do xyz yet” and “You haven’t ‘earned’ xyz yet.”

The former is totally understandable. (I’m cool with that.) The latter is talking down to you, which is never cool.
 

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I would run from any female who gives you the “have to earn it” line.

I was on a date once. We were fooling around, and I asked for a BJ. She said, “You haven’t earned that yet.”

There was no second date. She didn’t “earn” a call or text back.

There’s a BIG difference between “I’m not ready to do xyz yet” and “You haven’t ‘earned’ xyz yet.”

The former is totally understandable. (I’m cool with that.) The latter is talking down to you, which is never cool.
It's a carrot dangles. They empower her. Make you to a submissive doggy.
 

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Yes as I had said before when a woman says something like that she considers you beneath her. That is highly disrespectful to you. If this were at an outing I would literally excuse myself and not come back. Some bitches are so bold and say much worse. You have to remember you don't have as quick an expiration date - these bitches are this way because they "look good" and it clouds their judgement...so arrogant over something they didn't even have to cultivate, it was all given at birth because of their parents. So you need to be of the mentality they are just women, if it doesn't work out with one you find another. 5 years from now no one will probably wan't to put up with her **** anymore anyway.
 

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It's a carrot dangles. They empower her. Make you to a submissive doggy.
Absolutely. Although my angle is a little different.

She wouldn’t tell Chad that he “has to earn it.” If she claims you have to “earn” xyz, she is implying that you are deficient in some way (relative to her standards), and you need to pay the “ugly tax” to compensate or “earn” it.

TLDR; If she says you have to earn it, you aren’t her “A” guy. Maybe B, C or D guy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Absolutely. Although my angle is a little different.

She wouldn’t tell Chad that he “has to earn it.” If she claims you have to “earn” xyz, she is implying that you are deficient in some way (relative to her standards), and you need to pay the “ugly tax” to compensate or “earn” it.

TLDR; If she says you have to earn it, you aren’t her “A” guy. Maybe B, C or D guy.

She wouldn't be telling Brad Pitt ''he has to earn it''

Bish would be dropping her nickers, quicker than a sack of spanners!
 

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I think was just teasing you and you failed hardcore...

Her: you have to earn it
Me: how about I chain you to the bed and take it?
Or
Me: excuse me? Wait did you say? Theres something in my ear. Huh? What?
Or
Me: earn what? Then take her down a ridiculous line of questioning... earn a kiss? On the toe? On the lips? On your *****?
 

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It might've been a sh!t test, if she's the cheeky/playful/flirtatious/facetious/etc. Kind of person

But if she was in any way totally serious about you needing to jump through more hoops to impress her, drop her like a rock and never look back
 

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Now since you still haven't earned her kiss (according to this little b1tch), show her she has not earned your time and attention further on = ghost and no time for her anymore.
 

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She wants to control you. She views you as a beta. When a woman says this, ditch her off. You f**ked up somewhere in the process, she has a guy in line who's better than you, or she planned on teasing you the whole time.

The fact she's doing this ahould tell you you're not in first place. If you're not first, you're last. Alas, she's just not interested.

Case closed.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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I swear if a girl said that to me I'd immediately next and it'd take a lot to make me turn back.
 

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She's just not attracted. Move on. And tell her that if you need to win her kiss, her, at first, must win your attention. Ghost her.
 

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So can an alpha break this down for me? I have never seen this kind of tricks from a woman. And this is like the first time I slept with a girl in her bed without deflowering her.
Firstly, SMV is failing her. Secondly, low sex drive is a deal breaker. Finally, new girls are turning 18 everyday.

 

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1. Make a game of trying to randomly kiss her then say "I won!"

2. If that doesnt work, tell her "I feel like there isn't any chemistry, I'm going to move on" and enjoy the fireworks.
Tell her you realize you weren't really attracted to her and start banging another.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I knew you'd love that. You figure everyone gf's are getting azz fvcked and spunked in the face on first meetups.
Not all of them but plenty are. Chicks that claim they dont kiss on first dates are full of sh!t.
 

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That “you have to earn it” line is something I’ve heard before, but not for a kiss. It was for a bjob. We had done everything else basically. I shrugged it off and didn’t appear bothered by it. She left the country for a few months and when we met up again she did go down.
She eventually told me she just wasn’t comfortable enough doing that at the time.
I can respect that. The key is to not make a big deal out of it.

Your situation is different though. A kiss is really basic. If she’s pulling that for a kiss she could be still on the fence where attraction is concerned. That isn’t a good thing. “Desire can’t be negotiated”. She either wants you or doesn’t. I don’t recommend spending time and energy on anyone who isn’t “hell yes!!” about you.

I’d pull back and seek out women who are clearly into you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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