so i just met this girl online...we spoke for about one month while she had a boyfriend,i proposed a friendly date and she agreed only for her to cancel on me last minute saying she had school problems.she did not counter offer but i kept my cool. Weeks late a asked her out a again and she agreed again...Same **** happened again she canceled on me again...i just kept my distance for a while and the day i decide to hit her up again she tells me she just broke up with her boyfriend..what should i do in order to get her mind of her boyfriend and to focus on me?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She just broke up with her boyfriend
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
marmel75
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Nothing. She is clearly telling you she isn't interested. Take the hint and find other women to talk to.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
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0 for 2.
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Move on
don't be frustrated that she turned down the date last minute...she was still dating her boyfriend and of course he was the priority...now that they have broken up...keep your cool and give her time to make up her mind to move on.
good luck
good luck
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You are as lame as the OP messaging her for a month.
Her mind is made up.
This is like a drug addict asking, "any idea where I can get some more heroin around here??"
Bro. Walk away.