so i just met this girl online...we spoke for about one month while she had a boyfriend,i proposed a friendly date and she agreed only for her to cancel on me last minute saying she had school problems.she did not counter offer but i kept my cool. Weeks late a asked her out a again and she agreed again...Same **** happened again she canceled on me again...i just kept my distance for a while and the day i decide to hit her up again she tells me she just broke up with her boyfriend..what should i do in order to get her mind of her boyfriend and to focus on me?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She just broke up with her boyfriend
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
marmel75
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Nothing. She is clearly telling you she isn't interested. Take the hint and find other women to talk to.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
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0 for 2.
Next.
Next.
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Move on
don't be frustrated that she turned down the date last minute...she was still dating her boyfriend and of course he was the priority...now that they have broken up...keep your cool and give her time to make up her mind to move on.
good luck
good luck
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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You are as lame as the OP messaging her for a month.
Her mind is made up.
This is like a drug addict asking, "any idea where I can get some more heroin around here??"
Bro. Walk away.