so i just met this girl online...we spoke for about one month while she had a boyfriend,i proposed a friendly date and she agreed only for her to cancel on me last minute saying she had school problems.she did not counter offer but i kept my cool. Weeks late a asked her out a again and she agreed again...Same **** happened again she canceled on me again...i just kept my distance for a while and the day i decide to hit her up again she tells me she just broke up with her boyfriend..what should i do in order to get her mind of her boyfriend and to focus on me?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She just broke up with her boyfriend
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Nothing. She is clearly telling you she isn't interested. Take the hint and find other women to talk to.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
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0 for 2.
Next.
Next.
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Move on
don't be frustrated that she turned down the date last minute...she was still dating her boyfriend and of course he was the priority...now that they have broken up...keep your cool and give her time to make up her mind to move on.
good luck
good luck
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You are as lame as the OP messaging her for a month.
Her mind is made up.
This is like a drug addict asking, "any idea where I can get some more heroin around here??"
Bro. Walk away.