so i just met this girl online...we spoke for about one month while she had a boyfriend,i proposed a friendly date and she agreed only for her to cancel on me last minute saying she had school problems.she did not counter offer but i kept my cool. Weeks late a asked her out a again and she agreed again...Same **** happened again she canceled on me again...i just kept my distance for a while and the day i decide to hit her up again she tells me she just broke up with her boyfriend..what should i do in order to get her mind of her boyfriend and to focus on me?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She just broke up with her boyfriend
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
marmel75
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Nothing. She is clearly telling you she isn't interested. Take the hint and find other women to talk to.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
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Move on
don't be frustrated that she turned down the date last minute...she was still dating her boyfriend and of course he was the priority...now that they have broken up...keep your cool and give her time to make up her mind to move on.
good luck
good luck
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
marmel75
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You are as lame as the OP messaging her for a month.
Her mind is made up.
This is like a drug addict asking, "any idea where I can get some more heroin around here??"
Bro. Walk away.