so i just met this girl online...we spoke for about one month while she had a boyfriend,i proposed a friendly date and she agreed only for her to cancel on me last minute saying she had school problems.she did not counter offer but i kept my cool. Weeks late a asked her out a again and she agreed again...Same **** happened again she canceled on me again...i just kept my distance for a while and the day i decide to hit her up again she tells me she just broke up with her boyfriend..what should i do in order to get her mind of her boyfriend and to focus on me?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She just broke up with her boyfriend
- Thread starter jodel41
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
marmel75
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Nothing. She is clearly telling you she isn't interested. Take the hint and find other women to talk to.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
Why would you waste time talking to a woman you aren't seeing in person for a month? It screams you have no options and no game. You ask her out after 3-4 messages if not sooner and set a definite time and place.
All the talking, texting, etc leads to is the friend zone.
I'd suggest you read the DJ Bible. Save yourself a lot of problems in the future.
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0 for 2.
Next.
Next.
dustmuffin
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Move on
don't be frustrated that she turned down the date last minute...she was still dating her boyfriend and of course he was the priority...now that they have broken up...keep your cool and give her time to make up her mind to move on.
good luck
good luck
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
marmel75
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You are as lame as the OP messaging her for a month.
Her mind is made up.
This is like a drug addict asking, "any idea where I can get some more heroin around here??"
Bro. Walk away.