"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
shaun's training log
- Thread starter shaunuk
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Upper
Incline barbell bench, Worked up to a 3RM, 37.5kgx3 max
Dips, -20lbsx8, -20lbsx8, -20lbsx8
Barbell military press, 25kgx6, 25kgx6, 25kgx6
Dumbbell situps, 3x8
I thought I'd have been able to get more weight on the incline barbell press, but I guess it's normal that your incline bench is below your flat bench..
-shaun
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Upper
Paused barbell bench, 35kgx5, 35kgx5, 35kgx5
Incline DB press, 15kgx7, 15kgx7, 15kgx7
I was sposed to be doing shoulder presses and tricep pushdowns as well but my bro picked me up from the gym and couldn't wait.
-shaun
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=117452
on my routine, EFFORT wrote GHRs 3xfailure. I would've been able to get more usually, but my glutes and hams still weren't fully recovered from monday's box squats (bad, I know). I should probably let effort know about that
-sbaun
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
I'm listening to Prince.