"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
shaun's training log
- Thread starter shaunuk
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Upper
Incline barbell bench, Worked up to a 3RM, 37.5kgx3 max
Dips, -20lbsx8, -20lbsx8, -20lbsx8
Barbell military press, 25kgx6, 25kgx6, 25kgx6
Dumbbell situps, 3x8
I thought I'd have been able to get more weight on the incline barbell press, but I guess it's normal that your incline bench is below your flat bench..
-shaun
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Upper
Paused barbell bench, 35kgx5, 35kgx5, 35kgx5
Incline DB press, 15kgx7, 15kgx7, 15kgx7
I was sposed to be doing shoulder presses and tricep pushdowns as well but my bro picked me up from the gym and couldn't wait.
-shaun
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=117452
on my routine, EFFORT wrote GHRs 3xfailure. I would've been able to get more usually, but my glutes and hams still weren't fully recovered from monday's box squats (bad, I know). I should probably let effort know about that
-sbaun
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
I'm listening to Prince.