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[Plinco]

Is one required?

We're at 5, almost 6 pages now. Do you have clarity?

Really, this just boils down to making improvements in how you present yourself and approaching more women. You already know this, and we've been over this.

What YOU have to decide is whether you're willing to do things differently. Because I'll tell you what...approaching 2-3 girls per week and leaving the bar 30 minutes after getting there is NOT how you will achieve your goals.

You must decide whether doing things in a way that might make you uncomfortable is worth getting your desired result.

This thread is a testament to the fact that you would rather raise arguments and make points than take the necessary action and return with results to get further feedback on...you are responding to @BeExcellent just to let her know you're still planning your response...

Go out and DO something.

When @BeExcellent mentioned outcome dependence with my anger, I knew that was a juicy detail that I had to play around with in my head. It's not perfectionism or insecurity, the root of my anger is from entitlement. My conclusion is to outproduce the situation.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Men will go to great lengths and world class hamster spinning to avoid acknowledging that your looks are only a SMALL piece of the puzzle.

Looks mean absolutely nothing if:

- Your game is weak
- You have no social skills
- You radiate creepy energy
- You have a conflicted frame
- You are unsure of yourself
- You are not confident
- You are socially uncalibrated
- You can't read the room to save your life
- You can't read her body language to save your life
- You are overly dependent on outcome
- It's clear you are overly dependent on outcome
- She can smell your desperation
- You are approaching the wrong people
- You are dressing like a hobo
- You smell like a hobo
- You have a clearly visible erection
- You sound like Marty McFly from "Back To The Future"
- You think memorized openers = game
- You can't read her emotions
- You have dirty fingernails
- Your shoes look like you got them from a dumpster
- You have a horrible sense of style
- You trust the fistfvckers on SoSuave to honestly judge your looks

A bit late to the "party" on this one, but I just HAD to say "Thanks for making me second guess the cleanliness of my fingernails!"

 

[Plinco]

Is one required?

We're at 5, almost 6 pages now. Do you have clarity?

Go out and DO something.

Oh and by the way. You remember this six page thread

Help me understand this girl's BS

Last night I went out for drinks with my friends and spent most of my night hanging out with this girl I'd met back in September. Let me give some background: Matched with this girl on Hinge who lives out near West Chester, made plans to hang out when she got back from a NY trip Got drinks...

www.sosuave.net

Or that thread about moving out?

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

We've all got stuff we have to work on. If I find myself lacking and it isn't in an existing forum, guess what? I'll probably be inclined to make a post! Hopefully, I'll be dignified enough to not appear like a sappy bag of cope mope, but I've been there before too.

Point is, I don't see him being dishonest or ingenuine. He doesn't even need defense, I'm just trying to be a peacekeeper here.

We come here each for our own reasons. I feel I owe this place something and want to give back for browsing over the decades. You as well as BPH are here for your own reasons. That's not for me or anyone else to put ya'll to task for. Who is to say those reasons for being here won't change?

A dojo or a gym is similar. Maybe I want to win a trophy? Maybe I'm just tired of getting my butt kicked! Maybe I want to lower my blood pressure, be able to eat whatever I want and balance it out in the house of pain gain or heck! Maybe I just want to look better naked and fvck better... hehehe (Seriously that DOES get better too after getting serious about fitness). Our goals there can change too. Is that disingenuous to have new goals or to say something doesn't matter to us as much as it did before?

Maybe that didn't need to be said at all, I just think that's something we could all stand to remember when we feel inclined to say something like that? After all, most of the people on here genuinely try to help each other out for not so much as a thank you. I know for a fact I don't have to say to any of you how hard a place like this is to find. Especially for newer generations of young men. Let's keep it that way?

Cheers, -Johnny

 

[BPH]

Oh and by the way. You remember this six page thread

Help me understand this girl's BS

Last night I went out for drinks with my friends and spent most of my night hanging out with this girl I'd met back in September. Let me give some background: Matched with this girl on Hinge who lives out near West Chester, made plans to hang out when she got back from a NY trip Got drinks...

www.sosuave.net

Or that thread about moving out?

What's your point?

Do you see what you're doing here? You're creating an argument just for the sake of having something to argue about and distract yourself from taking action.

We'd been working together for several months, so I feel uniquely qualified to call you out on your BS...

Back around September and October, when your business started winding down for the season, you reasoned that you wanted to spend as much time on the business so you could make as much money before you mostly lost that income. That was your reason for not being able to take more action THEN.

What is your reason NOW?

Because lawn care season is back in full effect. So you're gonna be busy again and not have time, again. What are you gonna do differently? Because I have told you, and am continuing to tell you, what you need to do to achieve this goal you have:

1. Approach more women
2. Figure out your presentation (style)

I know I keep coming back to this guy, but do you know why @nicksaiz65 was so damn successful during our time together? He simply took advice and did it. In this case, that meant going out and approaching dozens of women every weekend, and reporting back with his experiences so we could fine-tune his approach.

He didn't let his biases get in the way of making progress, and didn't alter my suggestions so he could do things "his way" - he just did the obvious f***ing thing that I told him he needed to do.

And how'd that turn out for him? He f***ed 3 new women within 3 months. I think 2 of them were back-to-back weekends.

Decide whether it's more important to convince people that you're "right", and a victim of your circumstances (which is meaningless, since that just means you assign power to external factors beyond your control, and blame them for your position), or whether you'd rather be happy by doing something uncomfortable that would help you achieve your goals.

 

[Plinco]

What's your point?

Do you see what you're doing here? You're creating an argument just for the sake of having something to argue about and distract yourself from taking action.

I'm messing with you. Relax

 

[nicksaiz65]

What's your point?

Do you see what you're doing here? You're creating an argument just for the sake of having something to argue about and distract yourself from taking action.

We'd been working together for several months, so I feel uniquely qualified to call you out on your BS...

Back around September and October, when your business started winding down for the season, you reasoned that you wanted to spend as much time on the business so you could make as much money before you mostly lost that income. That was your reason for not being able to take more action THEN.

What is your reason NOW?

Because lawn care season is back in full effect. So you're gonna be busy again and not have time, again. What are you gonna do differently? Because I have told you, and am continuing to tell you, what you need to do to achieve this goal you have:

1. Approach more women
2. Figure out your presentation (style)

I know I keep coming back to this guy, but do you know why @nicksaiz65 was so damn successful during our time together? He simply took advice and did it. In this case, that meant going out and approaching dozens of women every weekend, and reporting back with his experiences so we could fine-tune his approach.

He didn't let his biases get in the way of making progress, and didn't alter my suggestions so he could do things "his way" - he just did the obvious f***ing thing that I told him he needed to do.

And how'd that turn out for him? He f***ed 3 new women within 3 months. I think 2 of them were back-to-back weekends.

Decide whether it's more important to convince people that you're "right", and a victim of your circumstances (which is meaningless, since that just means you assign power to external factors beyond your control, and blame them for your position), or whether you'd rather be happy by doing something uncomfortable that would help you achieve your goals.

I’ll be expecting my royalties check in the mail soon haha

 

[Askaladd]

Which is it?

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