Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You're darn right it better!Excellent news! Just when you think things aren't any better it turns around in a flash!
Mon - Chest and Triceps
BB Flat Bench Press x 4
DB Incline Bench Press x 4
Dips 5x5 [addition]
EZ BB Skull Crushers x 3
Tricep Pressdowns x 3
Tues - Back and Biceps
BB Bent Over Rows x 4
WG OH Chin Ups x 4
DB One-Arm Rows x 3
CG UH Pull Ups x 3
EZ BB Standing Curls x 3
Wed - Delts, Forearms and Calves
BB Military Press x 4
DB Lateral Raises x 4
DB Bent Over Raises x 3
BB F & R Wrist Curls x 3
BB Standing Calf Raises x 3
Fri - Triceps and Biceps
BB CG Bench Press x 4
BB Standing Curls x 4
CG Tricep Dips x 3
DB Alternate Curls x 3
DB One-Arm Ext x 3
Sat - Quads, Hams and Abs
BB Squats x 4
BB Stiff-Leg Deadlifts x 4
Seated Leg Press x 3
Seated Leg Curls x 3
Weighted Crunches x 3
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think he's going to cut on this program, might be a bad idea if he isn't used to training 5 days, but each to his own, good on him for giving it a go.Quagmire911 said:What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
Aye I'm going to be taking a conservative approach to eating. For this week I'm going to keep intake at around 2000kcals a day. If I feel tired by the weekend, bump to 2500kcals for the next week, and so on until I strike a balance where I'm not tired, yet not eating too much either.What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah I am a little big for 2000kcal, but I don't intend to keep it there at all, that's just a starting point.2000kcal? Bit heavy for that are you not? If you are trying to lose fat it would be better to start of a bit higher and lower from there. I was mid 170's and have lost a few pounds in the last 3-4 weeks eating around 3000kcal and watching carbs. The higher the calories you can lose fat on the better.
Read this:
http://www.johnberardi.com/articles/...ion/g-flux.htm
Think that is the right one.
Don't know if you have read Warboss's "fat loss whilst still gaining muscle" thread either.
Remember that you are 19 as well and your metabolism will still be higher. Also if you are getting back into heavy weights that will help quite a bit. Certainly 200kcal on a workout day at your bw (180-190?) wouldn't be a good idea.
And I hope you remembered to warm up as outlined in the Iron Addict warm up thread. I think it was you that had too few warm up sets in that past. I apologize if it wasn't
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.