You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You're darn right it better!Excellent news! Just when you think things aren't any better it turns around in a flash!
Mon - Chest and Triceps
BB Flat Bench Press x 4
DB Incline Bench Press x 4
Dips 5x5 [addition]
EZ BB Skull Crushers x 3
Tricep Pressdowns x 3
Tues - Back and Biceps
BB Bent Over Rows x 4
WG OH Chin Ups x 4
DB One-Arm Rows x 3
CG UH Pull Ups x 3
EZ BB Standing Curls x 3
Wed - Delts, Forearms and Calves
BB Military Press x 4
DB Lateral Raises x 4
DB Bent Over Raises x 3
BB F & R Wrist Curls x 3
BB Standing Calf Raises x 3
Fri - Triceps and Biceps
BB CG Bench Press x 4
BB Standing Curls x 4
CG Tricep Dips x 3
DB Alternate Curls x 3
DB One-Arm Ext x 3
Sat - Quads, Hams and Abs
BB Squats x 4
BB Stiff-Leg Deadlifts x 4
Seated Leg Press x 3
Seated Leg Curls x 3
Weighted Crunches x 3
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think he's going to cut on this program, might be a bad idea if he isn't used to training 5 days, but each to his own, good on him for giving it a go.Quagmire911 said:What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
Aye I'm going to be taking a conservative approach to eating. For this week I'm going to keep intake at around 2000kcals a day. If I feel tired by the weekend, bump to 2500kcals for the next week, and so on until I strike a balance where I'm not tired, yet not eating too much either.What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah I am a little big for 2000kcal, but I don't intend to keep it there at all, that's just a starting point.2000kcal? Bit heavy for that are you not? If you are trying to lose fat it would be better to start of a bit higher and lower from there. I was mid 170's and have lost a few pounds in the last 3-4 weeks eating around 3000kcal and watching carbs. The higher the calories you can lose fat on the better.
Read this:
http://www.johnberardi.com/articles/...ion/g-flux.htm
Think that is the right one.
Don't know if you have read Warboss's "fat loss whilst still gaining muscle" thread either.
Remember that you are 19 as well and your metabolism will still be higher. Also if you are getting back into heavy weights that will help quite a bit. Certainly 200kcal on a workout day at your bw (180-190?) wouldn't be a good idea.
And I hope you remembered to warm up as outlined in the Iron Addict warm up thread. I think it was you that had too few warm up sets in that past. I apologize if it wasn't
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.