She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You're darn right it better!Excellent news! Just when you think things aren't any better it turns around in a flash!
Mon - Chest and Triceps
BB Flat Bench Press x 4
DB Incline Bench Press x 4
Dips 5x5 [addition]
EZ BB Skull Crushers x 3
Tricep Pressdowns x 3
Tues - Back and Biceps
BB Bent Over Rows x 4
WG OH Chin Ups x 4
DB One-Arm Rows x 3
CG UH Pull Ups x 3
EZ BB Standing Curls x 3
Wed - Delts, Forearms and Calves
BB Military Press x 4
DB Lateral Raises x 4
DB Bent Over Raises x 3
BB F & R Wrist Curls x 3
BB Standing Calf Raises x 3
Fri - Triceps and Biceps
BB CG Bench Press x 4
BB Standing Curls x 4
CG Tricep Dips x 3
DB Alternate Curls x 3
DB One-Arm Ext x 3
Sat - Quads, Hams and Abs
BB Squats x 4
BB Stiff-Leg Deadlifts x 4
Seated Leg Press x 3
Seated Leg Curls x 3
Weighted Crunches x 3
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think he's going to cut on this program, might be a bad idea if he isn't used to training 5 days, but each to his own, good on him for giving it a go.Quagmire911 said:What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
Aye I'm going to be taking a conservative approach to eating. For this week I'm going to keep intake at around 2000kcals a day. If I feel tired by the weekend, bump to 2500kcals for the next week, and so on until I strike a balance where I'm not tired, yet not eating too much either.What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah I am a little big for 2000kcal, but I don't intend to keep it there at all, that's just a starting point.2000kcal? Bit heavy for that are you not? If you are trying to lose fat it would be better to start of a bit higher and lower from there. I was mid 170's and have lost a few pounds in the last 3-4 weeks eating around 3000kcal and watching carbs. The higher the calories you can lose fat on the better.
Read this:
http://www.johnberardi.com/articles/...ion/g-flux.htm
Think that is the right one.
Don't know if you have read Warboss's "fat loss whilst still gaining muscle" thread either.
Remember that you are 19 as well and your metabolism will still be higher. Also if you are getting back into heavy weights that will help quite a bit. Certainly 200kcal on a workout day at your bw (180-190?) wouldn't be a good idea.
And I hope you remembered to warm up as outlined in the Iron Addict warm up thread. I think it was you that had too few warm up sets in that past. I apologize if it wasn't
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.