She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You're darn right it better!Excellent news! Just when you think things aren't any better it turns around in a flash!
Mon - Chest and Triceps
BB Flat Bench Press x 4
DB Incline Bench Press x 4
Dips 5x5 [addition]
EZ BB Skull Crushers x 3
Tricep Pressdowns x 3
Tues - Back and Biceps
BB Bent Over Rows x 4
WG OH Chin Ups x 4
DB One-Arm Rows x 3
CG UH Pull Ups x 3
EZ BB Standing Curls x 3
Wed - Delts, Forearms and Calves
BB Military Press x 4
DB Lateral Raises x 4
DB Bent Over Raises x 3
BB F & R Wrist Curls x 3
BB Standing Calf Raises x 3
Fri - Triceps and Biceps
BB CG Bench Press x 4
BB Standing Curls x 4
CG Tricep Dips x 3
DB Alternate Curls x 3
DB One-Arm Ext x 3
Sat - Quads, Hams and Abs
BB Squats x 4
BB Stiff-Leg Deadlifts x 4
Seated Leg Press x 3
Seated Leg Curls x 3
Weighted Crunches x 3
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think he's going to cut on this program, might be a bad idea if he isn't used to training 5 days, but each to his own, good on him for giving it a go.Quagmire911 said:What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
Aye I'm going to be taking a conservative approach to eating. For this week I'm going to keep intake at around 2000kcals a day. If I feel tired by the weekend, bump to 2500kcals for the next week, and so on until I strike a balance where I'm not tired, yet not eating too much either.What about subbing the leg curls for GHR's as well? I have seen Poliquin, Rippetoe and other reputable sources saying that leg curls aren't so great for hamstring development.
You best be eating like a horse on this ehhh Quik, if you have great recovery you may actually do well of off it.
How is everything btw?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Yeah I am a little big for 2000kcal, but I don't intend to keep it there at all, that's just a starting point.2000kcal? Bit heavy for that are you not? If you are trying to lose fat it would be better to start of a bit higher and lower from there. I was mid 170's and have lost a few pounds in the last 3-4 weeks eating around 3000kcal and watching carbs. The higher the calories you can lose fat on the better.
Read this:
http://www.johnberardi.com/articles/...ion/g-flux.htm
Think that is the right one.
Don't know if you have read Warboss's "fat loss whilst still gaining muscle" thread either.
Remember that you are 19 as well and your metabolism will still be higher. Also if you are getting back into heavy weights that will help quite a bit. Certainly 200kcal on a workout day at your bw (180-190?) wouldn't be a good idea.
And I hope you remembered to warm up as outlined in the Iron Addict warm up thread. I think it was you that had too few warm up sets in that past. I apologize if it wasn't
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.